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7 resilience factors:
1. Strong community
2. Ask for help when you need it
3. Rest when you're tired
4. Get going—mood follows action—when you're stuck
5. Patience—can't force turn-arounds
6. Self-compassion (hard to be human)
7. Tragic optimism (this sucks, but here's hope too)
1. Strong community
2. Ask for help when you need it
3. Rest when you're tired
4. Get going—mood follows action—when you're stuck
5. Patience—can't force turn-arounds
6. Self-compassion (hard to be human)
7. Tragic optimism (this sucks, but here's hope too)
1. Strong Community
The people around you shape you. We are all mirrors reflecting onto each other. Quality over quantity—think about having a few people who you really trust and know that can keep you grounded when you soar and provide a cushion when you fall.
The people around you shape you. We are all mirrors reflecting onto each other. Quality over quantity—think about having a few people who you really trust and know that can keep you grounded when you soar and provide a cushion when you fall.
2. Ask For Help When You Need It
There is this misnomer that resilient people are super strong on their own. But in reality, they are super strong because they understand when they need help and they are not hesitant to ask for it.
There is this misnomer that resilient people are super strong on their own. But in reality, they are super strong because they understand when they need help and they are not hesitant to ask for it.
3. Rest When You Are Tired
People are not machines. You can't just plug into an outlet and go forever. The ability to bounce back when you are knocked down requires a lot of energy, both physical and psychological. You gain this strength and energy from resting when you need it.
People are not machines. You can't just plug into an outlet and go forever. The ability to bounce back when you are knocked down requires a lot of energy, both physical and psychological. You gain this strength and energy from resting when you need it.
4. Get Going—Mood Follows Action—When You're Stuck
There is a difference between being tired and stuck. For the latter, best strategy is usually to nudge yourself into action. We think we must feel motivated to get going but it's the other way around. Get going, gain motivation.
There is a difference between being tired and stuck. For the latter, best strategy is usually to nudge yourself into action. We think we must feel motivated to get going but it's the other way around. Get going, gain motivation.
5. Patience—You Can't Force Turn-Arounds
A big trap is trying to climb out of a hole too quickly, only to end up back where you started. Resilience is a process, a nine-inning game. You may want to be in bottom of the eighth when you're actually in top of third. Stay patient.
A big trap is trying to climb out of a hole too quickly, only to end up back where you started. Resilience is a process, a nine-inning game. You may want to be in bottom of the eighth when you're actually in top of third. Stay patient.
6. Self-Compassion (Hard to be Human)
Research: When knocked down the LESS harshly we judge ourselves and the MORE kind we are to ourselves the faster we bounce back.
Negative self-talk is a waste of time and energy.
"This is what is happening right now, I'm doing best I can."
Research: When knocked down the LESS harshly we judge ourselves and the MORE kind we are to ourselves the faster we bounce back.
Negative self-talk is a waste of time and energy.
"This is what is happening right now, I'm doing best I can."
7. Tragic optimism (This Sucks, But Here's Hope Too)
In between burying your head in the sand and being a pollyanna on the one hand and being totally despairing on the other there is a middle way. It accepts reality of a hard situation AND moves forward with hope nonetheless.
In between burying your head in the sand and being a pollyanna on the one hand and being totally despairing on the other there is a middle way. It accepts reality of a hard situation AND moves forward with hope nonetheless.
