One of the most important Aha!s you can have as a working person is to realize that your performance review doesn’t matter a bit outside the building. It literally doesn’t matter what your boss thinks about your performance.
The organization is a closed system. If you were going to stay there for your whole career the way people did 50 years ago, then your performance review would matter very much. However, you are not going to stay with this organization forever
You are only going to stay long enough to get whatever kind of treasure is available at this level of your video game. Then you will move onto a new level of the video game, collect some more treasure and keep moving.
And because you are not going to stay with this organization for more than a few years, your performance review has very little bearing on anything. Yes, it determines your pay increase, but it’s not like people with excellent reviews are getting 10 or 15% raises.
Someone with an unexciting performance review might get 2% and someone with an excellent review might get 4%. After taxes, that’s a very small difference.
When it hits you that performance reviews are just another instrument of power and control, it’s freeing.
I feel sorry for people who twist themselves into pretzel shapes trying to please the boss and get an extra half a percent salary increase. Why? These days, for the most part your career advancement requires you to leave the company in any case