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I don’t like when people say we can *all* heal & recover from any trauma. I have some I’m certain will never “heal.” My aim is to learn to co-exist with it & manage it better. If others aim for “healing” & “recovery” I will respect & believe them. But please don’t speak for all
Trauma is so personal and we all need to be empowered to find the language that is most validating yet also enables us to best move forward in a way that works for us. For some the language of healing may do that. For others it really may not.
I won’t heal. But I’ll do my best to reduce & manage the pain. To move forward in spite of it. To draw on the wisdom & strengths that my journey has given me. To find connection, beauty, meaning & purpose all the while nursing that same unhealed wound . There’s no shame in that.
Or at least I won’t reduce my value to an ever-shifting search for some final destination of “healing.” Maybe I’ll awaken one day & magically find my trauma so diminished that I can declare myself “healed.” But for now I prefer to live in service of a more tangible/inclusive goal
Maybe there are some semantics at play but language matters. Let’s ditch our inherent ableism about trauma. If your wounds are so deep that they can never be healed that doesn’t mean you can’t still shine. We shouldn’t have to put our lives on hold chasing a beautiful mirage.
I’m not upset with people who use “healing” language. It works for some. But the point of discussion on stuff like this is to make space for people to share differing perspectives so we can be more inclusive as I somewhat explored here …https://traumaandlawyersmentalhealth.blogspot.com/2020/09/my-approach-to-mental-health-messaging.html
