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We’ve noticed parts of the community believe that the only way to have communication and system responsibility is to accept yourself as ‘parts of one person.’
This is wrong. There are many paths to System stability. Here’s our story:
#didosd #dissociativeidentitydisorder (1/16)
This is wrong. There are many paths to System stability. Here’s our story:
#didosd #dissociativeidentitydisorder (1/16)
Accepting yourself as part of one person is only one route to system stabilization. Thinking “I am part of a person” and accepting the other’s actions as your own forces you to come together as a system and acknowledge and work with the other parts.
While is a totally valid route that’s incredibly important for some folks in the community, it’s often portrayed as the only path towards system stabilization.
However, it is vital that we both acknowledge and uplift the many systems who find other routes to system cooperation.
However, it is vital that we both acknowledge and uplift the many systems who find other routes to system cooperation.
Personally, we have found healthy ways (along with our therapist, who’s trained in both “people” and “parts” therapy) to work together and still view ourselves as people.
The main way we do this is by building strong internal relationships, and cultivating love for each other.
The main way we do this is by building strong internal relationships, and cultivating love for each other.
We hold so much love for each other. Our love brings us together and bonds us. We work with each other not out of necessity, but out of love. It’s an incredibly powerful force within our system.
We listen to new and traumatized alters not because they’re ‘parts of the person we are’ that need to be heard to heal, but because we love them and want them to be happy as themselves. We want them to feel the happiness and groundedness that the rest of us feel.
We communicate & cooperate with each other because we want to, and out of respect for others. Our system has strong relationships with each other, and we actively work to support each other through this life. We give each other gifts and take the load off each other’s shoulders.
And just like any other path to healing, this takes a LOT of time and effort. We’ve been working on it in therapy for years, and every day we’re getting better. We’re cultivating our love for each other, nurturing it so it can bloom.
However, we have felt incredibly isolated from large sections of the community due to complete and total emphasis on “parts” therapy and conception of systems. Many folks believe this is the only way to be healthy, and that has only further pushed us away.
Systems with decent followings in the community have told us that we cannot be healthy due to considering ourselves people. That we couldn’t have system responsibility, and that our therapy + therapists were wrong. That we should stop our journey and accept that we’re “parts.”
We don’t work that way, and we never will. But that doesn’t make us any less healthy. It doesn’t make us any less functional. It doesn’t make us any less happy.
As we said, we’ve been existing this way, along with the help/approval of our therapist(s) for YEARS.
As we said, we’ve been existing this way, along with the help/approval of our therapist(s) for YEARS.
Every day we get better. Every day we’re happier, more grounded, more present. We are thriving as ourselves. Insinuating that this is not only wrong, but counterproductive, hurts us. It makes us feel disbelieved and isolated from the community that was supposed to accept us.
Existing healthily, thriving, cooperating, communicating, and having System responsibility do NOT hinge on viewing yourselves as “parts.”
Period.
And it’s harmful to insinuate this.
#dissociativeidentitydisorder #didosdd (13/16)
Period.
And it’s harmful to insinuate this.
#dissociativeidentitydisorder #didosdd (13/16)
We’re not asking for every system to consider themselves “people.” Were simply asking to be heard, and for a broad spectrum of system experiences to be recognized.
We’re asking to discontinue the community’s invalidation of healthy therapeutical paths systems can take.
We’re asking to discontinue the community’s invalidation of healthy therapeutical paths systems can take.
While parts based therapy is incredibly helpful for some, we cannot uplift this as the only narrative. The phrase ‘people vs parts’ exists for a reason, and that reason is some systems work better under people based therapy. Their experiences and their healing path is valid.
We are a “people” orientated System. We are our own individuals. We are happy, healthy, and thriving - and we will not stay quiet about it.
And we shouldn’t have had to mention our therapist so many times to feel like we’ll be heard.
And we shouldn’t have had to mention our therapist so many times to feel like we’ll be heard.
A longer/more detailed explanation of our conceptualization system responsibility: https://twitter.com/theringssystem/status/1295032796315103234?s=21
