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6 Things To Look For When Vetting A Man
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Typically, it’s actually the men who are well suited to vet other men. They can instinctively suss out character.
Not all women have men in their lives (father, brother, uncle etc.) that can assist her in sizing up her prospect, so here are important traits to look for:
Not all women have men in their lives (father, brother, uncle etc.) that can assist her in sizing up her prospect, so here are important traits to look for:
1. What are his values?
What does he live for?
What would he fight for?
What would he die for?
What is his code of ethics?
What does he live for?
What would he fight for?
What would he die for?
What is his code of ethics?
2. Is he of strong character?
Is he a man of his word?
Do his actions mirror his promises? How does he treat those that can offer him nothing?
How does he treat the elderly? Kids?
How does he handle stress or situations beyond his control?
Is he a man of his word?
Do his actions mirror his promises? How does he treat those that can offer him nothing?
How does he treat the elderly? Kids?
How does he handle stress or situations beyond his control?
3. Does he have integrity?
Do you have faith that if he knew no one was looking, he’d still do the right thing?
If everyone is looking, will he be a man of his convictions or cower?
Does he take charge and responsibility for the outcome of his decision making?
Do you have faith that if he knew no one was looking, he’d still do the right thing?
If everyone is looking, will he be a man of his convictions or cower?
Does he take charge and responsibility for the outcome of his decision making?
4. Do his religious beliefs align enough with yours? (Important if building a family and instilling those beliefs into your children)
5. Are your visions of family aligned and the specific roles and expectations each of you would have within it?
5. Are your visions of family aligned and the specific roles and expectations each of you would have within it?
6. Can you laugh together?
Can you allow yourself to be vulnerable with him?
Do you trust him to lead in all things?
Would you be willing to follow his lead, even if you disagreed with him?
Can you allow yourself to be vulnerable with him?
Do you trust him to lead in all things?
Would you be willing to follow his lead, even if you disagreed with him?
Vetting isn’t bulletproof, but it is essential in selecting to whom you will commit. The traits outlined above are critical in ascertaining compatibility.
Aligned taste in music and hobbies make for a good first date.
Aligned values and principles make for a good lifetime.
Aligned taste in music and hobbies make for a good first date.
Aligned values and principles make for a good lifetime.
