Point by point response:

1. Eve was Adam’s wife. Also this assumes that not meeting with women privately means that you withdraw from them completely. Group meetings, public places, and rooms where someone can see in all make it possible to disciple without privacy. https://twitter.com/tgc/status/1362402743940501505

1a: A woman who is married shouldn’t want privacy with a man who’s not her husband anyways. And an unmarried woman would be wise not to be in alone with a man for safety. Wicked people can hide fairly well.

2. The enemy is sin and in the case of sexual immorality, it takes two to tango. Can’t do it if you’re seen by someone else. Also can’t be accused of things you didn’t do.

2a: This also means that it’s safe to assume that a woman isn’t going to try something when in private. Let’s be equal, I don’t trust men being alone with women because they might not be able to control themselves. I also don’t trust women to be alone with men for the same reason

During my undergrad I heard many of stories where a guy’s girlfriend was the one who pushed for sex. Something they didn’t know would happen until they were alone. Some were able to flee. Others weren’t.

2b: If you wait to practice wisdom until after attraction starts, you’ve waited too long. Also, I think it’s more problematic to single out one woman who doesn’t know there’s a temptation for you, then having a blanket policy that applies to all.

2c: There was never a time when Jesus was alone with those women though. Go back to point 1.

3: The reason you use those accountability steps is to avoid temptation, meaning you’re proactive. The Billy Graham rule is a proactive step. If a woman sees herself as the problem when someone makes blanket proactive steps, there’s a different problem there.

3a: This would be like a wife being upset at her husband for putting accountability software on his computer. Shouldn’t he just not lust? Be proactive, and ignore anymore who gets upset with you being proactive.

3b: I’m pretty sure the “treat women terrible” thing was likely a tongue in cheek joke. I’ve heard many pastors make similar jokes. It’s hyperbole to make a point.

3c: I think it’s wise to CC and/or BCC someone in on all your correspondences whether it’s a man or a woman. Or at least someone else being able to view your emails and texts. Once again, it’s being proactive, not only with temptation but with other problems.

3d: “If email is a stumbling block...” this is snarky and wrong. Because someone takes accountability steps that you don’t like doesn’t mean you get to mock them.

4: Back to point 1. You can do all of this in public. Having proactive steps to avoid being in situations doesn’t mean you’re avoiding women.

Also, for married women, they should be being shepherded by their husband before the pastor. It’s prudent for a pastor to redirect back to the husband theological and application questions, and then if needed, shepherd both together.