Just because a disabled/chronically ill person technically "can" do something doesn't mean they can actually do it.

Like technically I could go walk a mile right now. If I had to. If I was forced.

But I'd suffer for it. For days. It'd wreck my ability to do anything else

Technically I suppose I could clean my entire house right now, by myself, top to bottom

But I'd probably end up collapsing and maybe being unable to even get up out of bed for the next few days.

There are all sorts of things I technically ""could"" do but the cost of doing those things would be like...way too high to justify. The cost of doing those things would be not being able to do anything else for a good amount of time

And I think this is what abled ppl, what non-sick ppl don't ever truly understand.

"oh well you COULD do that if you HAD to"

right yeah sure ok but do you know what it would cost me?

And they never do

So they say "you're just not trying hard enough. You need to toughen up. If you made an effort you could do [thing]. You're just making excuses"

Because they don't understand what it means to have to pay for doing something. To have to give days away for like, an hour of work

If you're abled/non-sick, stop looking at things as a can/can't dichotomy. As a clear delineation between able/not able.

Instead look at it as: what are the consequences of doing this? What will it cost? What will have to be sacrificed?

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