relationships ARE healing if you allow them to be. theres no real way of 'fully' healing from relationships on your own. of course give yourself space and time to process ended relationships, but a lot of healing can happen as you hit certain obstacles.

you can do all of your shadow work on paper and get into a relationship and those same fears and insecurities will pop up and that is OKAY. the inner work you did will allow you to sort through those emotions in a healthy way.

if you're afraid of moving into a connection that feels right, give yourself space of course to figure out where those fears come from. are you in a space to allow change? are you ready to experience discomfort to set yourself free?

this does NOT mean to jump into a relationship before you've processed the latest one. we dont want trauma dumping or constant projections. your partner shouldn't have to come into the relationship 'proving' that they wont hurt you.