Status anxiety is common in young men, because they have high ambitions, but minimal achievements and abilities. Thus the gap between how they imagine themselves, and who they actually are, fosters a disagreeable arrogance that encourages them to seek conflict for self-gain.

They possess a sense of delusion, and the rebelliousness of a mature child - the teenager. They are paranoid about not being taken seriously, yet lack tact and often mistime and misplace their challenges. They are rough around the edges, because growing up is tough and painful.

They are not in a good position to be in a serious relationship with a woman. Not simply due to lack of status or wealth, in fact, they may have these things if from a good family - but because they themselves are mentally unsound, incomplete, spasmodic, unwise and unstable.

Such a young man is, for all intent and purpose, still a boy (although his ego would never allow him to admit as such). He is still on his journey, building his most rudimentary foundations, grasping for his manhood. He can scarcely maintain himself, let alone govern a woman.

And whilst a young man's journey of self-discovery ends when he completes this critical juncture and ascends from boyhood to manhood, a woman's never does, for she will always be as unstable as he is before he has fully matured, for she never ascends to this level herself.

One thing I forgot to add

Many such young men emotionally intuit sociopathy to be the answer to their problems. They worship narcissists and cast aside decency, because unearned cruel arrogance is the sugar of emotion - it makes you feel good without actually achieving anything.

And thus rather than grow, they simply treat people like shit to get a hit of what it feels like to be in charge. It's short-sighted, foolish and sad, but understandable.

What they didn't tell you is this:

Sociopaths are losers, because they're shadow possessed, not integrated.

What that means for those of you unfamiliar with Jung, is that they have no control over their inner evil. It consumes and possesses them and they give themselves to it. This is weak. They may be cruel men, even fearsome. But they have zero self control, and are thus a liability.

If you had a weapon, and it lived inside you, would you want it firing off whenever it wanted, robbing you of all the light and warmth and kindness you ever felt in your life, or would you want it to fire when you told it to, only then, and with precision to protect those things?

This is the difference between being shadow integrated & shadow possessed.

One has control of their savagery & wields it, the other simply lets it become them, because they're too weak to do anything but give themselves over to their cruellest impulses in desperation for power.

Sociopaths make good salesmen, but that's all they're good at. They're flashy and good at confidently talking endless amounts of shit, but everything else they touch turns to shit. They have bad relationships with their family/wife/kids. They're always frustrated, never at peace.

Listen, sociopathy as a strategy for acquiring status is functionally sound. You can make a lot of money through sales. You can acquire status. Women, perversely, find these kind of men attractive.

But, this is a purely materialist path. You will sell your soul for this.

And what I mean by that is - you will never know peace. You will always be angry. You will never trust anyone. You will have no honour and your callousness will ruin lives. You have cast yourself as the villain, and thus no matter how much you hurt, you are confined to that part.

I understand the allure of sociopathy. I understand, why you think it's the answer to your problems, and that you need to reinvent yourself to be a more callous, immoral, manipulative creature - because these people seem to succeed in life

But success has a cost, and this is it.

If you're reasonably intelligent, you can rely on hard work, talent & shrewdness to rise in life.

You don't need to drink the poison chalice, and fuck people over to the top, leaving a path of bodies behind yourself that invites legions of untold enemies.

But it's your choice.