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Dan and I made a decision long ago not to have kiddos.
This does not come up very often anymore - usually only while chatting with strangers at events or on vacation.
It gets awkward fast, of course. Because most folks don't expect us to say no when they ask if we have kids.
This does not come up very often anymore - usually only while chatting with strangers at events or on vacation.
It gets awkward fast, of course. Because most folks don't expect us to say no when they ask if we have kids.
So we usually pause and then say, "But we do have two ridiculous cats."
I'm not usually offended by the question, unless someone presses on to ask why, which is rare. Or says something like, "Oh, that's too bad. People like you *should* be having kids."
I'm not usually offended by the question, unless someone presses on to ask why, which is rare. Or says something like, "Oh, that's too bad. People like you *should* be having kids."
Because, of course, it nobody's business why anyone chooses not to have kids or to have them.
And it's not a judgment on anyone who has kids that I don't have them. It doesn't mean we hate children in general, either.
And it's not a judgment on anyone who has kids that I don't have them. It doesn't mean we hate children in general, either.
My fave. exchange about this: A woman at our table at a fundraiser:
"If you're not sure you want to have kids, you can practice on a goat. That's what I did."
Me:
Her: "Wait. How old are you?"
Me: "35."
Her: "No time for a goat!"
This, of course, will be the title of my memoir.
"If you're not sure you want to have kids, you can practice on a goat. That's what I did."
Me:
Her: "Wait. How old are you?"
Me: "35."
Her: "No time for a goat!"
This, of course, will be the title of my memoir.
