one of the things that annoys me the most about the colonial nuclear family + patriarchal romanticism ideations, beyond its unabashed violence on oppressed people, is how it obfuscates, deprioritizes, and negates non-traditional modalities of community care, love, and intimacy.

we are trained to spend our lives searching for (1) “soulmate”—because it allegedly is fulfills us from an emptiness sought by the ills of capitalist alienation and exploitation—and we (over)value and privilege that search and those dynamics over community building

and we wonder why we are so detached from one another. and why these relationships we use as escapism founded upon the inherent social antagonisms of patriarchal romanticism/colonial gender logics/ideological heterosexuality, are so unstable, unfulfilling & doomed from the start!

somebody’s gonna quote tweet this and say “just say you’re single & lonely on valentine’s day” and i absolutely cannot wait despite the fact i’m not single nor lonely BUT even if i was i am fulfilled & greatly loved by community, which is my point lmao everyone’s deserves that!