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My Valentine's Day thread
(Dating Coach stuff lol)
Alota people end up being in unhappy marriages/relationships for several reasons.. One of which could be that, at the time they chose this person, their reasons for doing so were more about what entices them on the outside.
(Dating Coach stuff lol)
Alota people end up being in unhappy marriages/relationships for several reasons.. One of which could be that, at the time they chose this person, their reasons for doing so were more about what entices them on the outside.
Their looks, charm or possessions,. Seemed to be convincing enough to draw a conclusion for a solid committment. And somewhere down the line, its not as magical as you might've expected it to be, because now you start to see what was blind to you when you had fallen in love.
And what you truly need from somebody finally starts to emerge. And that is the very thing that we should hold close to us, at each time we consider being with anybody. Get to understand yourself. what are the things that would make you feel happy and satisfied emotionally.
And whatever it may be, make it known to the person you are/want to be with. But also assess if they can be able to reciprocate those needs.. Because that is what is so important for your happiness while youre in it. And get to know theres aswell.. And reciprocate it back..
But letting eachother know this stuff needs yall to communicate your thoughts and feelings. And the reason why things crumble, is because people fail to communicate or are not very understanding of how important you/your partners perceptions and feelings are to the relationship.
And if communication is not present, either one or both parties still suffer in silence.. But your needs are still present and have life to them.. So much so that either of you could go searching for it elsewhere.. They either behave unfaithfully, or may decide to up and leave.
And ways in which we all feel loved will be different... In certain senarios, simply saying that you love them, is just not enough.. And yes maybe you may decide to get her nice things hoping to do the trick but, maybe it doesnt.. What if thats not her what if shes different..lol
What if she just wants the more simpler stuff like giving her words of affirmation. Or just spending more quality time with her...These things may vary from person to person they're called love languages. Ways in which an individual processes being loved is how I'll define it.
And from love languages we can meet a persons emotional needs.. But these can only be made known to eachother with 'communication'.. And also, that one can find a better suitable partner for themself, once they understand how their own emotional needs should be met...
Its not what attracts you that holds the both of you together.. But what you need from eachother
The End
