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Yet again people assure me I can’t in fact be suffering from 12 mths of pandemic isolation, because I have a family. Love that for me. Discounting other people’s distress based on their perceived circumstances is tight! Congratulations to all those out there winning at being sad
Thanks to all those of you who have said kind things. To clarify: basically what I am saying is that everyone has it rough. Living by yourself this whole time? Rough. Living with three children and corgi? Rough.
Having to go in to work and risk infection and deal with people? Very rough. Not having to go in to work and not having that social interaction? (And any other social interaction you might usually have) Very rough.
It is rough all over! There is my inspirational message. And the people who are like, actually the last year has been great for me for x reasons I don't like to leave the house anyway lol chortle? Sure. You do you. Though maybe don't do it in the mentions of someone in pain.
It isn't a competition. You don't need to compare and contrast. Someone else suffering and bleating about that doesn't diminish your suffering/happiness.
And you might think you are doing a service & being kind by saying, "Hey but look how cute your dog/child/lizard/sofa/woman/man/camera/tv is it can't be that bad! At least you have a job!"
I would suggest it is unlikely that you are. That person probably knows they have a job.
I would suggest it is unlikely that you are. That person probably knows they have a job.
That person probably knows that their dear little 'Eddie Lizard' is the Cary fucking Grant of iguanas. (Putting aside the things Eddie destroys and the care Eddie needs for minute...)
Those things are good! Yes! They aren't suggesting they aren't.
Those things are good! Yes! They aren't suggesting they aren't.
But guess what it still isn't a Get Out Of Sadness/Trauma free card.
Covid aside. I know those of you who suffer/have suffered from depression know what I am talking about. You can't be sad, look you have 'x' isn't a helpful argument.
Covid aside. I know those of you who suffer/have suffered from depression know what I am talking about. You can't be sad, look you have 'x' isn't a helpful argument.
Also it is the social medias. You don't know what you don't know about that person. This goes double if that person isn't anonymous & is aware that their professional colleagues are reading their tweets/posts/whatever.
And they don't have to share every aspect of their lives on here. (I'm not just talking about me here, as you may have gathered.)
Incidentally DM'ing them to ask some personal detail they seem to be missing (Partnered? Health status? Immigration status?) isn't fantastic either , but I am under no illusions that me saying so will prevent anyone but I mention it anyway.
