How to say "NO" without feeling embarrassed.

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I've said it many times and I'll say it again:

There is no better way to refuse than to simply say NO.

People tend to be ashamed to say those two letters..

Yet for most people it could've saved their day on many occasions.

The reason you feel embarrassed when you refuse is that you think you owe people an explanation.

Flash news:

You don't.

In fact the more you try to justify the more you look like a fool.

Afterall if there are excuses, there must be solutions

They'll try to convince you.

As you give reasons for your refusal, your interlocutor will see a breach

If you try to justify, you try to get their approval for your decision.

This is exactly why you won't get it.

Their interest obviously doesn't lie within your refusal.

They want you to say yes.

The only way out of this vicious cycle is to never open the door for discussion.

When you say no, it must and should be the end of the conversation.

Dont open any door to anyone

If you don't want to, nothing should try to change your mind.

You don't owe anyone an explanation

Quick summary:

-Simply say no.
-If you're going to give a reason, make it short.
-Don't open the door for discussion.
-Cut it short when they try to change your mind.

That's it. It's that simple.