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aftercare for doms! (from a dom)
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just a quick reminder that doms need aftercare too! domming can be extremely tiring, especially after long or hard scenes. and while doms generally take on the caring role, that doesn't mean they're need to be cared for isn't there. dom drop is very real and can happens for most+
+if not all doms. everyone needs aftercare, it's important to make sure everyone's mental and physical needs are taken care of after a scene:)
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1) reassurance! make sure they know you love and care for them. telling them that you love them and care for them and appreciate them is super important! also telling them that you know they're a good person and they'd never hurt you is important to help the dom not drop
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2) communication! along with reassurance, tell them the things you liked and didn't like. most doms just want to make sure it's enjoyable for you (and them of course). and communication is just a big part of a dom/sub dynamic. it will benefit both of you!
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3) cuddles! while it make be difficult in a ldr, cuddling is a great way to rest and be together still intimately after a scene!
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4) calling! especially in ldrs calling and just talking or sitting on the phone can be super beneficial to both of you. distracting the dom+
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4) calling! especially in ldrs calling and just talking or sitting on the phone can be super beneficial to both of you. distracting the dom+
+from any possible overthinking or harsh thoughts of themselves can really help make sure the dom doesn't drop. and you can even watch a show or movie together over call!
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5) though it's not specifically something you can do, but being aware that some doms just need+
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5) though it's not specifically something you can do, but being aware that some doms just need+
+space and time alone to process a scene. obviously a dom should never leave you without aftercare, but giving the dom alone time to process everything that just happened is something some doms may need and you should let them do so
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6) making sure needs are met! +
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6) making sure needs are met! +
+so getting them to drink some water or maybe have a snack. cleaning up any wounds just simply getting clean themselves.
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7) napping/sleeping together! (this one can also be difficult in a ldr but napping/sleeping on call can be done) just having that time together still after+
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7) napping/sleeping together! (this one can also be difficult in a ldr but napping/sleeping on call can be done) just having that time together still after+
+a scene, especially long or hard ones when it can be tiring for both you and the dom is a great way to again stay intimate after a scene.
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8) taking a bath together! this goes with basic needs but you two can have a nice bath together and make sure both of you are+
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8) taking a bath together! this goes with basic needs but you two can have a nice bath together and make sure both of you are+
+clean and okay. (again ldr is difficult but you could call while having baths)
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9) simply checking in! asking how they're doing and what they need. kind of goes with communication but just in general making sure both of you are voicing your needs and making sure the other+
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9) simply checking in! asking how they're doing and what they need. kind of goes with communication but just in general making sure both of you are voicing your needs and making sure the other+
+is okay and you know what they need.
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please just remember that doms are people too. they deserve to be loved and cared for and they're allowed limits and to be insecure. if you have any other ideas feel free to comment them. hope this helped!
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please just remember that doms are people too. they deserve to be loved and cared for and they're allowed limits and to be insecure. if you have any other ideas feel free to comment them. hope this helped!
