My staple auntie level of advice to the younger gals is if he aint yo man, dont sleep over his house and dont let him sleep over yours.

when yall business is done, pick yo panties up stuff em in your purse and find your way back home

Drive your own car or always have money for an uber or Lyft.

But whatever you do, dont spend the night.

Dont get emotionally tied up cause you layin there cuddling and his warm body feels good.

GO HOME!

No breakfast in the morning. No leaving a toothbrush and bonnet over there.

gather your coochie and hit the exit. Thank him for the paynis and be on your way.

Lets be honest. what we do is create an environment for casualness to grow into “feelings”

Intimate conversations in bed. romantic dinners. Sharing playlist.

It dont even be “love” we just get attached and love the companionship . Then the blowup happens.

The blowup isnt really our “feelings” its our ego and pride.

How dare you not want to commit to ME? We been havin fun, we get along well, we have great sex. What you mean you aint lookin for nothing serious?!?!

Thats all ego.

Deep down you dont actua want to be with *them*. youre acting on what feels like a natural progression after two people like each other.

our brain says, you should be together!!

Nah. Thats the trigger from creating an attachment and probably a bit of codependency.