THE TRAP: “Why don’t you just leave your abuser?”

When I went to the safe house I was 100k in debt. My abuser had racked up my credit cards. I wasn’t allowed to work while at the safe house. I defaulted. I left the house with no job.

I went back to my abuser.
In 2020 I finally finished paying my taxes from 2012. Since I left my abuser the most I’ve made was $15.50 per hour. I make minimum wage now. I don’t have any children, if I did I’d be further behind.
Long term aftercare and financial independence is crucial for survivors. This is an aspect of the conversation that is missed. I still barely make it financially, but I’m not complaining. I’ve enjoyed learning how to be accountable.
Anytime I’ve returned or thought about returning to my former abuser it was motivated by my personal financial situation.

“Why don’t you just leave?” Isn’t that easy if you have a criminal record or lack of education.
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