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Is there a way to explain to men that the words and actions of their fellow men often predicate their creepy behaviour LONG before the overtly creepy words and actions happen?
I know folks on the spectrum sometimes get specific training in, "This is the way your face should look to describe happiness." "When a person takes a step back from you, you may be making them uncomfortable."
Can we just teach this to *everybody*?
Can we just teach this to *everybody*?
A celebrity recently described a specific kind of bad date with a specific kind of person and her replies were full of guys going, "I don't get why this is a problem?"
Bad faith, my dudes. A joke is only funny if the person you're playing it on knows it's funny.
Bad faith, my dudes. A joke is only funny if the person you're playing it on knows it's funny.
Same goes for guys on the Internet who write dating app responses like a spam email. "I would like to offer u an good time because you are gracious and butleful. [Six seconds pass] Why do u no respond to my compliments to u?" IS CREEPY.
Why? Gracious and beautiful, even spelled correctly, are generic compliments. It's the equivalent of saying, "Hello, I have noticed you are of the lady pursasion," or, "As an Aquarius, you are a dynamic individual." Replace Aquarius with Gemini, or Leo, or dachshund. Meaningless.
Then, to follow that up with a demand for immediate response because they fed some generic compliments into the lady machine is threatening. Why get involved with someone who believes they deserve to be rewarded for vapid, then demanding behaviour?
Sure, narcissistic psychopaths are harder to identify, because they've spent time learning how not to do this kind of thing, but it's much easier to assume somebody who does this is 1 message away from, "You will accept my seed. I will take your eyes & add them to my collection."
But, somehow, dudes miss the problems with everything prior to the seed deposit and eyeball removal, and even then are going, "Well, maybe it was a metaphor."
Maybe he's a serial killer. WHY FIND OUT?
Maybe he's a serial killer. WHY FIND OUT?
And I genuinely think that some guys can't recognise these cues because of the way guys can't seem to tell if a dating profile is fake, or a chat bot. So, really, giving very specific, "How to communicate with humans," training benefits everybody.
It's just occurred to me. I suddenly want to see cover letters and interviews from these same kind of guys. If the mediocre white man can get a job with the same techniques, we have MANY things to fix in society.
