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It's another Valentine's season. The promos are out. Some are planning special proposals. Others are thinking of “shooting their shot.” But “BEFORE THE FIREWORKS,” you need to remember that God calls us to honor him at all times. @NDBCVI @Iremide @Helijah_ m#@tim_kunat @itsladeji
Rather than ask, when should I start a relationship? Who should I date? I believe there are two things you must do. Carry out two exercises. First, do a readiness check. Then a compatibility check. @Eromski @dejitula @YouthsLagos @Debby874 @afolake26 @Folami__ @fiyin4God @sola_ff
Readiness Check has to do with you. Before you initiate or get into a relationship, do a personal needs assessment. A readiness check is you asking yourself, “AM I READY FOR A RELATIONSHIP?” Rather than when can I start? Ask, am I worthy of being in the life of another person?
Most relationships fail because the start is faulty. As it is for buildings, when the foundation is wrong, the building will be unstable. If you begin on the wrong footing, you are in trouble. You have to ensure that you should get involved in another person's life. @NDBCVI
The first check is what I call Mental Maturity or Intellectual Maturity. This has to do with your ability to process issues. It is not about educational or academic attainment. Can I think rationally? Can I take decisions objectively? Can I use my will freely without coercion?
The second readiness check is Moral Maturity. Am I able to tell the difference between right and wrong? Do I have the right standards and principles for life? Can I be decisive about good and bad? Do I have the requisite fiber to stand up for what is best rather than good?
The third consideration has to be Spiritual Maturity. I consider this to be the single most important issue. Ask yourself - “Do II have a growing faith in Christ? Am I walking step with the spirit? Is my spiritual fervor strong enough to recognize when God is speaking? @olaballo
Physical Maturity is another check that must be done. Is your body ready for the rights of a marital relationship? This is more than just reaching puberty. Your systems need to be sufficiently ready to handle the expected results of physical intimacy in marriage. @gamtheprof
The fifth check is EMOTIONAL MATURITY. Emotions are powerful. They are influential. If you wish to be in a relationship, you must learn to manage and control your emotions. Do you get irritated easily? Are you a cry baby? Do you have anger issues? Do your emotions master you?
Then you have to check your SOCIAL MATURITY. Am I ready to interact with others? Some think they will interact with only one person when they get into a relationship. This thinking is faulty. There will be parents, siblings, cousins, uncles, aunts, colleagues, and even “exes.”
The seventh check is FINANCIAL MATURITY. Finances are not the key to relationships but they are important. If you start dating, you will spend money - days, gifts, support, or even family events. You don't have to be a millionaire but do you have a decent livelihood? @iofatoki
So here are the seven things you need to check yourself on to determine if you are ready. @dacious_ @FelixMwanret @oshin_uncolonzd @impacttoyin @BWAYouth @jerryakinsola @okbabarinde @SooHarry @WestTobin @AbiodunJags @DareFadeji @dawodu_gbade @NDBCVI @kskadeyemi @SimiSina
On the flip side, you have to do a COMPATIBILITY CHECK. Here you determine if you want to be or if you should be with this person. Many relationships fail because they do not check from the start if the other person works for them or not. A compatibility check prepares you.
If you become committed to the wrong person, you are in trouble. If you align with the wrong individual, you might be heading for a crash landing in the future. Do the compatibility assessment. You ought not to go in blindly. @ttemako22 @TTemako @igieweosazee @monblaze @Bams_Jnr
The first thing you want to check is the FAITH permission of this person. What do they believe? Who do they worship? Are they Christians? What kind of Christian? What is their spiritual history? Where is their spiritual family? Do not trade this off. Be sure before you commit.
The second is FAMILY. What family is this person from? What is their history? This will help you know what to prepare for? It will help you understand the tendencies of your partner better. Never overlook the family background. Better be aware rather than surprised later.
Check the FUNDAMENTALS. What are the values of this person? What are her underlying principles? You need to know what will never change and what can change. #ValentinesDay #lori_iro #LoveIsInTheAir #Obalende #FFK #ValentinesDay #femifalana @NDBCVI @kingsodoh @Favouredayo #CBNBan
Also, discuss the subject of FUN. What does this person do for leisure? What do they like? What do they enjoy? This knowledge will help you to bond. It will also provide insight into what being with them will be like. @NDBCVI #valentines #Loriiro #FFK @tim_kunat @Iremide
Never overlook their FRIENDSHIPS. The circle of friends a person has will give you ideas of who they are. Are they superficial? Are they flimsy? Are they people who strive for growth and challenge each other? You will also know if this person is loyal, faithful, and dependable.
Talk about the FUTURE. You need to engage in discussions about aspirations. What are the plans ad projections that this person has for the future? Do they seem like what you can be a part of? Is this person shortsighted or visionary? @kskadeyemi @NDBCVI #valsday #DeloitteNEO21
FLAWS must never be ignored. What are the character issues you see? Does this person lie, make excuses, or makes false claims? Is this person snobbish or arrogant? Does this person think truth does not matter? Is the person abusive? Is this person violent? RED FLAGS! #vals
I often think about FEELINGS last. I think feelings can be killed. They can also be fanned. Feelings can be nurtured but it needs to have a seed. So do you have any affection for this person? Is it mutual? Is it strong enough to commit? Or is it infantuation? #valsday
So here are the right things to check about the other person before you become VALENTINES. If you do a good job, this should set you on the right track. What about the medical issues? We will discuss those later. #LoveWisely #lovers #ValentinesDay #bewise #CBNBan #femifalana
