"What would he WANT?" is NOT the right Q.

Instead, we should ask the followings,
- "What are you most worried about?"
- "What are you hoping for?"
- "What is most important to him?"
- "Tell me about him."
- "What makes his life meaningful?"

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You need to let them talk and listen carefully.
After that, you should try to phrase the goals of care with your own words.

"Based on what you told me, we should probably focus on comfort and make sure he doesn't suffer any more"

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Then you make a recommendation.
"In order to achieve that goal, I would recommend....."

I say it again.
"What would he WANT?" is a BAD question.

It is more harmful than useful.

Please do not use "WANT" !!

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