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BDSM 101 - A THREAD
bdsm isn’t just about fucking. it’s consensual power play that usually involves non-conventional sexual practices. it’s just as much mental as it is physical. that’s why doing your research and making sure you’re aware of how it all works is so important. +
bdsm isn’t just about fucking. it’s consensual power play that usually involves non-conventional sexual practices. it’s just as much mental as it is physical. that’s why doing your research and making sure you’re aware of how it all works is so important. +
BONDAGE & DISCIPLINE.
bondage is the practice of consensually tying, binding or restraining a partner for erotic, aesthetic or sensory stimulation. usually including the use of rope, cuffs, bondage tape or cohesive bandage. a temporary transfer of power, leaving the restrainee +
bondage is the practice of consensually tying, binding or restraining a partner for erotic, aesthetic or sensory stimulation. usually including the use of rope, cuffs, bondage tape or cohesive bandage. a temporary transfer of power, leaving the restrainee +
powerless to the restrainer. discipline is the practice in which the dominant sets rules for their submissive to follow. when not followed, punishment is used as a form of disciplining. the rules are set as a reminder for the subs position in the power dynamic or to train them +
to be a better sub for the future. punishments can be physical or psychological, such as spanking or public humiliation. punishments usually relate to the rule that was broken, such as wearing a ball gag for speaking out of turn. there is a difference between this and abuse. +
DOMINATION & SUBMISSION.
in this power dynamic, the person who takes the superior position is called the “dominant” and the other “submissive”. a switch is someone who plays either role. two switches may negotiate or exchange roles in a session. not to be confused with being +
in this power dynamic, the person who takes the superior position is called the “dominant” and the other “submissive”. a switch is someone who plays either role. two switches may negotiate or exchange roles in a session. not to be confused with being +
a “top” or a “bottom”. it involves a set of behaviours, customs, and rituals involving the submission of one person to another in an erotic scene or lifestyle. physical contact isn’t necessary, however it can be intensely physical. gender doesn’t determine which role you have. +
SADISM & MASOCHISM.
this is where it can be intensely physical. sadism and masochism is the giving and receiving of pleasure by inflicting or receiving pain or humiliation. a sadist being the one getting pleasure from inflicting pain and masochist being the one getting +
this is where it can be intensely physical. sadism and masochism is the giving and receiving of pleasure by inflicting or receiving pain or humiliation. a sadist being the one getting pleasure from inflicting pain and masochist being the one getting +
pleasure from receiving pain. it can be sexually arousing for both parties but also dangerous if boundaries and safe words aren’t discussed. this is completely consensual, and there’s a difference between this and straight up abuse. even after reading this thread, research. +
AFTERCARE & SAFE WORDS.
aftercare and safe words are NOT optional. they are a necessity when practicing bdsm. aftercare is important when dealing with injuries and sub drop or dom drop. it’s gently bringing someone back to reality and helping them feel grounded after fantasy +
aftercare and safe words are NOT optional. they are a necessity when practicing bdsm. aftercare is important when dealing with injuries and sub drop or dom drop. it’s gently bringing someone back to reality and helping them feel grounded after fantasy +
play. establishing your “normal” if you’re in a relationship. there are often spikes of endorphins and adrenaline during bdsm. you can crash from this high and end up with a “drop”. those feelings can show up anywhere between 24 to 72 hours or immediately after a scene. making +
sure you recognise this in your partner is so very important. sub or dom drop looks different in everyone and for each scene. it can even happen during a scene, so that’s why safe words need to be discussed and enforced BEFOREHAND. a safe word can be any word, but it must be +
known between everyone involved. typically people use red for stop, orange for slow down and green for keep going. it’s good to check in regularly with your partner as well during a scene and discuss what you realised you liked/didn’t like afterwards. apply this to aftercare +
as well. some might need very little aftercare while other may need a lot. a drop can be absolutely horrible, involving problems with taking care of yourself or even thoughts of suicide. this is a brief thread of information so PLEASE TAKE THIS SERIOUSLY AND DO MORE RESEARCH. +
bdsm is supposed to be enjoyable for everyone involved. if you are not enjoying yourself you MUST voice it. if you suspect your partner isn’t then check in with them. if your partner/s are not considerate of you then you need to break things off. it is abuse. stay safe everyone x
- for more info about aftercare. https://www.lovense.com/bdsm-blog/aftercare
IMPORTANT REMINDER: CONSENT CAN BE REVOKED AT ANY TIME NO MATTER WHAT THE REASON IS. CONSENT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING.
