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Growing up, I always hated the fact that nobody complimented me about my physicality or performance in sports - mostly because I sucked at them 
I mostly got comments like;
"Oh, you sing so well"
"Ah ahn, this boy is a good artist"
"Poetic poet, write on!"
"Smart boy! All As"
I mostly got comments like;
"Oh, you sing so well"
"Ah ahn, this boy is a good artist"
"Poetic poet, write on!"
"Smart boy! All As"
This made me question my masculinity alot of times as a young boy. Thinking that I was only known either for the things that girls used to do, or things that nerds loved.
Worst of all, I was a very emotional kid.
I was already so in touch with my emotions at quite a young age.
Worst of all, I was a very emotional kid.
I was already so in touch with my emotions at quite a young age.
I could clearly express how I feeling, and many people didn't fancy that from a boy. It wasn't a common thing, lol.
This made me take stupid steps to proving that I was man enough to be a man, lol.
I tried some sports like athletics, volleyball, soccer. I sucked at them all.
This made me take stupid steps to proving that I was man enough to be a man, lol.
I tried some sports like athletics, volleyball, soccer. I sucked at them all.
I even became the laughing stock of my secondary one time when the volleyball was coming towards me, and I ran away.
I eventually tried gymnastics and I was so good at it. Flips, rolls, tumbles, I was so gooood. I thought I'd finally found validation.
I'm a man finally!
I eventually tried gymnastics and I was so good at it. Flips, rolls, tumbles, I was so gooood. I thought I'd finally found validation.
I'm a man finally!
Turns out, nobody really rated gymnastics like that. I mean, do you see Ronaldo or Messi jumping and rolling like trained thieves? Lol.
I was back to square one.
I was back to square one.
Eventually, I became friends with this guy, Basit. My best guy till date.
He unconsciously made me comfortable with the things I was good at. Singing, drawing, rapping (at some point, lol), poetry, piano playing etc.
Eventually I vegan to embrace my personality and talents.
He unconsciously made me comfortable with the things I was good at. Singing, drawing, rapping (at some point, lol), poetry, piano playing etc.
Eventually I vegan to embrace my personality and talents.
From time to time, I still got bullied by the more physical guys in my school set.
I had a lot of funny names hurled at me, mocking me for being so sensitive et al (emotional guy that I was, lol)
It didn't help that I didn't have a girlfriend either
I had a lot of funny names hurled at me, mocking me for being so sensitive et al (emotional guy that I was, lol)
It didn't help that I didn't have a girlfriend either
A lot of girls would rather be friends with the "singing guy", than imagine a relationship with me.
I was in NUMEROUS FRIEND ZONES.
I even sang and wrote songs for people and their girlfriends at some point
It was crazyyyy
I was in NUMEROUS FRIEND ZONES.
I even sang and wrote songs for people and their girlfriends at some point
It was crazyyyy
I fell for the immense pressure when I finally joined the boarding house in SS3.
I felt the need to prove a point. I made a lot of stupid decisions, took advantage of some girls' emotions and I just became something I couldn't recognize.
(For a few weeks sha)
I felt the need to prove a point. I made a lot of stupid decisions, took advantage of some girls' emotions and I just became something I couldn't recognize.
(For a few weeks sha)
After seeing the error of my ways,
I went back to being me. And I haven't turned back ever since. I love who I am, I love what I do.
I love how I suck at sports and physical stuff... I can't come and die.
I'm in touch with my emotions and I absolutely love expressing myself
I went back to being me. And I haven't turned back ever since. I love who I am, I love what I do.
I love how I suck at sports and physical stuff... I can't come and die.
I'm in touch with my emotions and I absolutely love expressing myself
Peer pressure and male expectations are such terrible constructs. They can ruin a child and hinder full expression of potentials.
Don't allow it near you children. And if you're currently being subject to it, set yourself free today.
Have great day!
Don't allow it near you children. And if you're currently being subject to it, set yourself free today.
Have great day!
