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Ruined orgasms are rarely understood correctly in the femdom scene. Many confuse it for forced orgasms, orgasm denial, or simply do it incorrectly. But, with practice, it can be mastered.
http://Cosmopolitan.com explains that “a forced orgasm means you *are* allowed to orgasm as intensely as you’d like, whereas a ruined orgasm is more about minimizing the pleasure you feel when you climax.”
This description is precisely it. A ruined orgasm is “ruined” because the individual is allowed to cum, but they are not allowed to experience any of the pleasure associated with it.
There are multiple tiers to ruined orgasms depending on how much you want the individual to suffer.
To give someone a ruined orgasm, it is best to edge them. Then, right as they cum, stop all together.
To give someone a ruined orgasm, it is best to edge them. Then, right as they cum, stop all together.
This is where the multiple tiers kick in. If you want the person to still feel minimal pleasure, leave your hand wrapped around their cock as they cum and just let it “leak” out.
But if you want the person to experience absolutely no pleasure, let go all together. Take your hands off his cock completely. The cock will continue to twitch, searching desperately for that much wanted contact and touch. Do not give in.
And if you want to step it up even a tier further, don’t even properly pleasure or stroke or fondle their cock before they cum. Just gently tease it, on the tip or balls, with your fingers or a toy. Just do whatever is least necessary to get them over the edge of cumming.
This orgasm will already be diminished in intensity and pleasure due to how teasing and half-done it is. But to completely let go at this point, as they begin to cum, is truly cruel.
“Blocked orgasms” are also a type of ruined orgasm. This can be a topic all by itself, but it essentially involves blocking the person’s cum right as it begins spewing out. This is best done with a thumb or palm.
Ruined orgasms are a perfect conclusion to a tease and denial session, orgasm control session, or just as a classic punishment. Safe words are still recommended, as muscle cramps can occur during the ruining. But, overall, it is a very safe yet evil technique to utilize.
