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can i just say, members of marginalized groups should be allowed to express messy anger at their oppressors without immediately being lectured on being more respectable in their anger? we know what the nuances are. but we are fucking exhausted and we have earned messiness.
if i jokingly say that i hate m*n of course i don't mean i hate every man!!!!! it is just that it takes so very long to say "i hate the system of patriarchy that privileges masculinity and marginalizes me for a) being AFAB, b) being (gender)queer, and c) not being "ladylike""
i'm expressing this from the perspective i experience marginalization from, but from my privilege, i'd also like to say to other white people seeing this thread: please don't yell at nonwhite people who say they hate white people or don't want to be around white people.
that person is expressing PAIN. they are expressing everything they have been put through. i am not going to police their pain or tell them they need to soften their expression of it for my white comfort. often, the most important things are uncomfortable to hear.
pain is not meant to be comfortable to hear. it is vital to sit with your discomfort; to dissect where that discomfort comes from. you cannot ask someone experiencing pain to make something difficult into something easy.
