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"that doesn't exist" yes, it does and it has for a very long time. just because you don't think it exists doesn't make our experiences or identities any less valid
"you're not ace" how would know? you're not us, you don't know us as well as we know ourselves, you don't know our experiences or how we feel things and you certainly don't get to decide our sexuality for us
"you're not part of the lgbtqia+ community" yes we are. what do you think the 'a' stands for? it's not ally. just because our experiences are different from other parts of the community doesn't make us any less queer
"you've just not found the right person yet" it's not about "finding the right person" it's about whether or not we experience sexual attraction. sexual attraction doesn't just magically appear when we find "the one"
"that can change" maybe, but that's no business of yours. if someone labels themselves as ace and later discovers that they're not actually ace after all, that is the business of one person and one person only, the individual in question. and they're still just as valid
"so you're a virgin" first of all, gross. second, not necessarily. just because ace ppl don't feel sexual attraction doesn't mean they don't like sex. some aces like sex as much as anyone else. it just depends on the person
"so you're celibate" again, nooo. being ace and being celibate are two very different things. sure, you can be ace and celibate, but you don't have. not all aces are celibate and not all celibates are ace
"so you don't find ppl attractive" not necessarily. there are several different types of attraction, and just because we don't feel sexual attraction doesn't mean we just don't experience them all. and again, it varies from person to person
"so you don't date anyone" no. again just bc we don't experience sexual attraction doesn't mean we don't experience romantic and other forms of attraction. we can also still date and form very strong and healthy relationships without all the sex stuff
"ace ppl aren't discriminated against" actually, we are. all the time, ppl try to tell us that our identity doesn't exist. doctors try to tell us that it's a health problem or a mental problem. asexuality was labeled as a mental illness. 1/3
we even face discrimination from our own community. the lgbtqia+ community. 2/3
two // rape
asexual ppl also often have to suffer 'corrective rape' to try and prove we feel sexual attraction after all. or we get rape threats from ppl claiming they can "fix" us
asexual ppl also often have to suffer 'corrective rape' to try and prove we feel sexual attraction after all. or we get rape threats from ppl claiming they can "fix" us
"i can fix you" no you can't. we're not broken. and even if we were, we wouldn't want your "fixing" any way
"that's so sad" no it's not. just because we don't want the same things you do, doesn't mean we can't live a full and happy life all the same
"you don't know what you're missing out on" trust us, we don't care
that's it for now. i hope this thread was educational and maybe helped change how you think about and talk to asexual people.
in the end though, asexuality is a spectrum. all ace ppl are different. all ace ppl are valid. and nobody has to explain their sexuality to you unless they want to.
much love
much love
to help answer the question "how can you be asexual and still like sex?"
there are also different kinds of attraction, like romantic and aesthetic. we can still feel attraction, just not sexual attraction
and just because an ace person is aesthetically or romantically attracted to someone does NOT mean they find them sexually attractive!
and just because an ace person is aesthetically or romantically attracted to someone does NOT mean they find them sexually attractive!
also! making sex jokes or finding sex jokes funny doesn't make someone any less ace
another thing:
please DO NOT infantalize us ace ppl, and assume that we're just "naive" or "don't know about sex" it's so harmful!!
please DO NOT infantalize us ace ppl, and assume that we're just "naive" or "don't know about sex" it's so harmful!!
another things is if you are not aspec, please do not make jokes about asexuals like "asexuals when they see the letter a: 
" or "if you're ace are you attracted to playing cards"
those kind of jokes can be really harmful
" or "if you're ace are you attracted to playing cards"those kind of jokes can be really harmful
