I really want the pandemic “moms are suffering” pieces - which I totally agree with and am glad they’re being written - to look at two mom households. I think there’s probably a lot everyone can learn - and I suspect it would be in a good way.

I say this as someone in a two mom household who works full time and...find it hard to relate to the moms profiled. I feel horrible for them. I think there are awful systematic failures here. It is not anyone’s fault. But...we do things differently.

(I would also include two dad families in this as well.)

My kingdom for a longitudinal study looking at the children of two mom/dad families. (My hunch is that my children will carry these dynamics forward. It would be nice to research that.)

(And I say all of this not to be dismissive. We didn’t have daycare from March-July. It sucked. We likely make less money than mom-dad households due to income inequalities. That sucks. But there are some differences in our parenting, and that was true pre-pandemic as well)

Maybe one solution is more queer editors.

(And thank you for suggesting it, but I am not the right person to write this. I don’t really write first person, and my family stays offline and I respect that.)

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And since I’m now receiving a lot of “not my husband” tweets, I will say that it’s helpful when these things are studied at the population level. For example, I assume most of you are not showing your kids milo and Otis tonight and calling it the puppy bowl, as my family does....