Regarding the Marilyn Manson abuse, Evan Rachel Wood is really strong to speak out like that and so soon. While i have not been in an abusive relationship, just like her i was groomed , and speaking out his damn hard.

The speech where she mentions how she realised he did it to other women, i relate sadly strongly to it and i could feel her regret for not speaking out earlier for this reason especially.

But what strikes me is the amount of vile women who overtly dream to be “dating”manson, support him massively instead of supporting Evan Rachel Wood. And this pinpoints something massive, women frequently gaslight survivors.

Some comments were just appalling and again, for those who cannot read the room, fake accusations are damn rare. But you know what is rarer? Abusers being actually prosecuted for their crimes. When are we going to listen to survivors and care more about their wellbeing?

Seriously having to deal with the shame, the guilt ( because the abusers made you consent to it by manipulating you), and most importantly the ptsd , is too much itself , so don’t add extra abuse on the survivor.

Also by refusing to listen to the person who was abused , because it is painful for you/makes you uncomfortable , it adds up extra trauma as we tend to try to spare our loved ones with the massive horror we lived through. And it is an extra burden.

For years i did not say anything, as i was worried of the repercussions it would have on my family. I was scared of how they would react, was scared not to be believed. The main thing is if someone comes out with something so big, listen, just listen and give support.

Dont add an extra burden and do everything to support them through the procedures, from going to a therapist ( a good one, make them change if the therapist finds excuses for the abuser), or going to the cops.

Never ever dare to shift the blame on the survivor. Dont tell them to get over with it. However hard we try to , it will always be at the back of your mind. Just like her , i cannot do anything now, as i reported on my 37th year.( in France it is limited to 38).

France really disgusts me on the subject, with its worshipping of pseudo intellectual pedophiles like Matzneff. In France what happened to me was just considered as sexual abuse, in the UK it was assault on minor... which says a lot about it.

Anyway again, Evan Rachel Wood did something really powerful and is risking so much by speaking out... so respect her and treat her and other survivors( regardlessof theif gender) with kindness .