I'M ON A TANGENT NOW:

Being intellectually disabled and being brilliant are not mutually exclusive. My child is brilliant. Both hubs and I work for unis and get some tuition for dependents covered. When I tell *people* my child will go to uni, their jaws drop and eye bug out.

I can see them thinking "how will I break it to her?" & "you'd think someone like her would understand that's not a possibility."

Same thing happened when I said my child would talk, walk, everything.

If she chooses to go to uni I will do whatever I can to help her get there.

The *system* does its best to squish & squeeze any unconventional ideas about our kids we might hold. So holding onto those dreams is really, really hard.

And there are such great examples of organizations that are doing it 'unconventionally' and why can't they all b like that?