Thread by @NoobicusMaximus, Watching EFAP Movies: Man of Steel reminded me just how disappointed I [...]

Watching EFAP Movies: Man of Steel reminded me just how disappointed I was in that movie. The thing that got me the most which they hit on regularly is Clark not seeing himself as human, not seeing himself as clark kent or part of their family...
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This has always been something that has been a connection to me in the Superman universe, Clark is for all intents and purposes (and in the case of smallville literally) adopted by the Kents. They are open with him about it.
That is my exact life situations
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My whole life I've known I was adopted, I've known that my family wasn't my family the way it is for a traditional person or family. but it was always stated that they loved me just as much and choose me despite being born deformed (foot issue nothing you'd notice)
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As an adopted child, and as someone who has met several other adopted children the way adopted children on screen are always portrayed just felt wrong.
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You always see the person being on a quest to find their 'real' family. That they don't belong and NEED to find their true place. Etc. Now don't get me wrong this is a very real reality for many adopted children.
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Usually it's the girls more then the boys that have this need to find their families, at least in my experience, which is admittedly limited, and i've never figured out why. But then there is the other side, the side that fits me.
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Those of us who see our adopted family as their true family. Have no need other then passing curiosity to find out anything about our birth parents or family and even openly joke about being adopted with friends and family.
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The show that did this best was smallvill, you had clark who was completely Jonathan and martha's son, and saw them as his true family. And Lana who having lost her family at a young age was desperate to make some kind of connection with her lost family. (cont.)
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being smallville they added a wrinkle where her mom had an afair and her father was still alive and she went through a whole season or more desperately trying to find him to know 'who she was.'
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The show also handled the shock and trauma that can come about from a person who has no interest finding their birth family can go through when they unexpectedly just show up unannounced. Like my birth brother did out of the blue a few years ago.
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Years ago I got several messages from a guy asking me about where i was born, what hospital etc. so I did what anyone would do and immediately blocked him. He created a new account and then started with "Don't block me I know your birth mother!"
i almost blocked him again
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I had no desire at all to connect with that side of the family. I didn't want to hurt my parents feelings, and I didn't want to invite strangers into my life. Oddly enough you could tell the people the understood vs those that didn't...
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I told several people about this and got one of two answers: most were like "OMG! that's awesome! you must be so excited do they look like you are you going to go meet them? what are they like, it's so cool you found your true family!"
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But three of my friends understood, and were all like "OMG are you ok!?" They knew this wasn't a good thing for me, it was opening up a wound i'd closed years ago. See growing up adopted that gets used against you by other people...
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"You're worthless! even your family couldn't stand you and gave you away!" I heard more then once. It took time to come to the reality of that matter. and the situation opened up an old wound. Much like they covered in smallville when clark found jor'el.
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Ultimately I did start to email back and forth with my birth mother. And i'm glad I did. we got some closure out of it, but sadly she passed some years ago. I haven't spoken to my genetic brother since then. we have nothing in common. and no we don't look alike.
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Ultimately I think Man of Steel failed to understand that connection that clark had to his family, and ultimately to humanity. It defined who he was as a person. He, as an adopted child accepted himself as a kent, and as a human.
He was one of us, by choice.
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And although he would later use that name, and very human nature to be a disguise, he was and always will be clark in the blue suit...
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when he's superman he is showing his true self and only hiding his name. But He's the same person in the glasses and tie, just a little more mild, a little more reserved. Don't we all do that from time to time? only showing our true selves when we need too?
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Don't we all hide our abilities until needed? Hide our true personality until around friends. We all rise to the occasion and surprise ourselves from time to time.
Because deep down, we are all superman. That was the point.
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