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I used to find other people’s boundaries to be so violent. Like what do you mean, I can’t come over? What do you mean, you needs space from me??
I didn’t have boundaries for myself and when I did, I folded on them easily. I spent literally all of 2020 actively practicing
I didn’t have boundaries for myself and when I did, I folded on them easily. I spent literally all of 2020 actively practicing
implementing and exploring my boundaries. I didn’t want to have them in reaction to another person’s boundaries, I wanted to know where I draw the line for myself and act on it. Boundaries are weird bc like everyone ultimately wants to be able to trust others will do the right
thing, love you the right way, care for you how you need it& vice versa. Everyone wants to be able to flow, but people are not psychic or perfect and shit you think is important is usually only important to you. So communicate your needs, stand firmly in your decisions&be honest.
Also this is v one sided. regardless of me learning to implement my own boundaries, I understand I also may not have made those who required stronger boundaries with me feel safe, heard, understood, comfortable. I have caused people harm and spoken over them and that’s why I
Thought boundaries were such a weapon, because I was haphazardly wielding my own. I dont just have to learn my own boundaries for my discomfort, but I have to learn to be empathetic, something I am still lacking in and working on. I will not be in the front of much community
And activist work this year. It would be irresponsible of me to take up that kind of space while there’s internal work that needs to be done that can/has caused more harm than good in some cases. There are many ways I can show support from the nosebleeds.
