I have come across so many women who are heavily left leaning and one thing that surprised me was that most of them had history of abusive or neglected childhood. Either influence of father was absent or abusive. After seeing so many data points one thing strikes me 1/n #thread

We know how from media to newsprint to educational institutes....this narrative of regressive patriarchy, aggressive Hindutva is fed. When these girls feed on it growing up they are able to relate. It turns them into pseudo- feminist and high on woke ideas of patriarchy 2/n

And I think I have a good hold on how to prevent your daughters (& sons) from falling for this and grow up tied to their roots and beware of left and jihadi agenda 3/n

Strong father figure...involved parenting by father & father showing that respect for kids mother and giving them their space and love and lending helping hand will solve a lot of these issues. That's when patriarchy will be viewed as a strong tree of shade and not the stick 4/n

Look at most of these women, Das, Dua...what kind of example their fathers set? Doesn't it make it easy for them to become toxic feminists? They do use their dads influence and connects and will fight on their behalf much like Stockholm syndrome but it has subconscious effect 5/n

For them men aren't good, women are suppresses and used (as they or their moms were when they were growing up so is easy to accept this propaganda and believe that regressive Hindutva and Brahmanical patriarchy is to be blamed). Left carefully amplifies these stories 6/n

Uses examples of Khaps, remember BJP politician who was branded as regressive when his daughter eloped- How amplified that story was. Similarly the unnao rape case as it involved a RW politician. Or ij Nirbhaya case Afroz's name was suppressed while Ram/ others were amplified 7/n

A good point coz someone replied. STRONG father figure doesn't mean CONTROLLING. Strong means being there, helping moms, treating both mom and kids with respect, teaching them right values yet giving kids responsible freedom. Setting a good example. 8/n

One can't be a smoker and alcoholic and expect kids to be non smokers and teetollers or you can't be having an extra marital and expect kids to not indulge in pre marital. You can't be raising hands on their moms or kids and expect them them be non violent 9/n

And giving them that comfort that you are there to support, to help them solve their issues but you also trust them and you love and respect their mom. She is an equal to you in all respects. That is what I mean by strong parenting by fathers. Being there and right example 10/n

When I speak to these women (in college or at work or social circles) and try to counter the narrative by giving my example...their retort always is...you are lucky or you are exception. You see everyone weighs truth by their own experience and forms beliefs 11/n

The more they hear from girls/ women like themselves, and read left narrative, the more they get convinced that problem is some bogey monster called Hindutva and patriarchy. My experience is negated as an exception. It took me years in some cases to know their past 12/n

that they had abusive childhood or their father was abusive/ neglectful of their mother. Most of their mothers wings were clipped. Now when I see the pattern...it doesn't sound coincidental but rather causal. And that's where we have a clue of how to save our kids 13/n

In most Jihad grooming cases, you will find a pattern...their fathers were absent or neglectful or abusive in growing years (towards them or parents). The girl will lean onto first man who want to occupy that space in her life. Jihadis use this vulnerability. 14/n

They are super nice, respectful, warm and loving in the beginning. The real play starts once girl gets physical and entrapped. Most of the time it's not love but trying to fill that gap of father figure in life. The fathers who won't leave a gap, will not have these issues 15/n