Thread by @Heliotrophy, Notice how most relationships, those that even exist, feel somehow more hollow [...]

Notice how most relationships, those that even exist, feel somehow more hollow now?

There are a lot of reasons for this, but public education is one of the biggest

Hot girl to grab your attention. Now read my thread about why male friendship has collapsed & how to navigate it

Public education:

- hours of your day away from family where your authority is bureaucrats

- peer group restricted to age cohort

- at the end of it you or significant amounts of your friends, whose bonds were forged over years of sharing the suck, will ship off to c*llege

There, they will receive critical theory via repository, probably get involved with substances, and develop new friendships that will often be weaker than those of the old group (which may split up)

You didn't "outgrow" each other, you got split apart and groomed for slavery bro

Ideally you make strong friendships at uni, esp via sports, but even if you do what happens when you graduate again? Are those bonds strong enough for you and your friends to share a common plan for the future? In most cases, no.

In a normal, functional society, though, the general friendship group, especially for men, would be formed in childhood and subsist until death with most of the same members.

As each member starts their own family, the group does not dissolve. It becomes the core of a TRIBE

Without such a tribe you are vulnerable both materially and psychologically.

We all sense this, but it's hard to counteract it since we have no template for doing so.

For one thing, many have been conditioned by the internet to be picky about our friends. "I don't associate with cringe people," lunch table politics.

I know this is especially tough in our space, where extremely eclectic interests and worldviews make irl people boring.

But now, under coron-ocracy, average people are facing similar issues with friendship.

The internet is a rough place to make the sort of true, deep-rooted companionship mostly for one reason: ease of access

There's a fairly simple formula for determining the depth and meaningfulness of a human relationship, and it actually doesn't have much to do with "attraction" or even compatibility.

Brotherhood = time spent together + amount/degree of ~hardship~ endured together.

The basis of the male friendship drive is wrapped up in the same psychospiritual wiring as hunting and fighting; the Platonic form of a fraternity is a warband.

Shared difficulties create loyalty because they increase faith in each others' ability to succeed & to do so together

So, for friendships then we have a pretty good understanding of the problems we face which means some solutions are easily visible:

Find people you have a good gut feeling about and do something challenging with them.

For us online that means shared projects, making stuff, etc

But there's also another tool at our disposal - video games!

Much has been said by people in this parts about how gaming is mostly a time sink and addiction risk. They're mostly right - Minimise your single player time.

But in the digital age MP gaming is the best available emulation of sharing a hunt or a fight. You can find free, low spec games easily if you're not already into it.

If you're a young man bearing the brunt of the estro-industrial pod's war on warbands, follow these steps:

1) look for clubs irl you're interested in. Tough now with rona, ik

2) find ppl online who roughly share ur attitude/worldview

3) MAKE THINGS or play games with them

Play it cool and don't be a sperg, but do try to discuss these social trends in a way that will make your friends reflect on them. People need to be reminded that these types of bonds are important enough that "drinking buddies" aren't gonna cut it.

Finally, for us as Diadochi operating within the classical and Indo-European traditions, the friendship/ally bond does indeed have spiritual importance. It is a relationship subject to the Gifting Cycle just as our bonds with our gods, ancestors, and family are.

To that end, ultimately we do want our friendships to be mutually recognized on that level. This is the level of friendship that most men in history enjoyed, and today it's become so alien that our historians often mistake it for homosexuality.

That conflation of friendship w/ sexuality is v interesting, it's a big and complicated problem with roots in both wokeness and abrahamism. I'll address it another day.

Anyway, I also plan to address why dating and marriage relationships have become dysfunctional so stay tuned

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