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I have had some time to cool off and think about the whole thing with Deadzilla. This isn't the first time that someone I knew turned out to be a sexual predator and it hurts me that just this week I've heard other stories of people who found this out about their male coworkers.
So I'm saying that this isn't just a "fandom thing". As a friend pointed out "*gestures everywhere*". This is a larger issue that stems from Toxic Masculinity in Western culture. The kind of culture that tells men to act a certain way until it crosses a boundary
and society goes "Ew, not like that". This is what happens when women's bodies are glorified as soon as they hit puberty. I know from my experience, when I got to that stage in my life I CRIED. I cried because I knew that I would be treated differently and people
would place unrealistic expectations on me because of my perceived gender. And I think about these poor girls who were preyed upon by someone "who seemed nice".
I am devastated. I am angry. I want things to change. I wish, most of all, that these girls did not have
I am devastated. I am angry. I want things to change. I wish, most of all, that these girls did not have
to experience that and carry this weight with them the rest of their lives. My husband told me a story of a teacher at his school who did the same thing. This is not an isolated incident. It happens TOO MUCH and it NEEDS TO STOP.
As adults we need to be the safety net for the younger generation. We are here to guide and support, not to take advantage of.
Note that I am not excusing his behavior because of "tEh PaTrIaRcHy" because he is still responsible for his own actions. He knew better. But these screwed up elements in our society do not help.
We can't just go "well creepers gonna creep" if we don't at least acknowledge the systemic issues in our society.
