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Here’s the tea... or at least one of my thoughts during second wave times: we are collectively grieving “normalcy”, people, jobs, stability, places, health, safety, etc. and you know what? Most of us weren’t taught how to grieve properly. #PandemicGrief
From a young age, we’re taught how to acquire things not how to lose them. In fact, we’re told to not even learn from loses- “it is what it is”, “you have to move on”, etc. most of what we learned about processing feels caused by loss is just wrong.
The top 6 myths we’re taught from a book I love (Grief Recovery Handbook): 1. “don’t cry”=don’t feel bad 2.”we’ll get you a new dog”=replace the loss 3. being invalidated or told to “go cry in ur room”= grieve alone 4. “time heals all wounds”=just give it time (time doesn’t heal)
5. “We must be strong for ___”= Be strong for others 6. “keep yourself busy”= keep busy
Anyway, the book is great, go check it out! Let’s try to be compassionate with ourselves right now & try to combat the myths of grieving and feeling things. Cry, feel the things, connect with others, do something in the time to help, take breaks...& we don’t need to be strong!
