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This is going to be a thread but can we just appreciate Kurt’s development? He was bullied relentlessly for years and was raised by a single parent who didn’t really outwardly show affection that often. So for years, he kept his guard up...and then Blaine came along.
Their relationship is rocky. Blaine cheats on Kurt and once again, Kurt feels vulnerable. So he closes himself off to protect himself. Even though Blaine insists on getting back together, Kurt is hesitant. He doesn’t want to get hurt again.
Even though they get back together, Kurt doesn’t let his guard down. Every time Blaine shows affection, Kurt gets annoyed. All throughout his life, Kurt was never really treated this way by anyone and he didn’t know how to handle it. So he tells Elliott he feels “suffocated”
After months of fighting, Kurt pushes Blaine away completely. They break up, and Kurt misinterprets his own feelings. He thinks they’re fighting because they aren’t meant for each other.
Then Kurt starts seeing a therapist. He realizes that he made a mistake. But instead of chasing Blaine, he lets him go because he thinks Blaine is happy. It’s a demonstration of his maturity; as the saying goes, “if you love someone, let them go”
Fortunately, they get back together. But this time, Kurt’s especially aware that he struggles with intimacy. He’s extremely transparent with Blaine, and he even admits in his vows that he’s “a work in progress”. S5 Kurt wouldn’t have admitted that, but this is a new Kurt
Not only does Kurt openly admit that he struggles with intimacy, he actively works to show more affection towards Blaine by marrying him spontaneously, holding his hand, calling him “my husband”, comforting him when he’s distressed...etc. And that’s why their relationship lasts
And I’ll also add that Blaine learns to give Kurt his space. He doesn’t reach for Kurt’s hand, but rather lets Kurt take the lead. In the barn, he lets Kurt decide whether they get married. When he breaks up with Dave, he waits for Kurt to find him.
The shift in their relationship after they get married is subtle, but it’s beautiful. And while I wish the writers had spent more time on it, I really love that we got to see them grow together from being highschool sweethearts to becoming a mature married couple. The end :)
