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Okay, I’m gonna add some clarification of my own feelings now that Lídia has provided some much-appreciated context.
My family is from Spain, migrated to Brazil. We share A LOT of cultural similarities with Lídia, especially my grandmother and great aunts. 1/?
My family is from Spain, migrated to Brazil. We share A LOT of cultural similarities with Lídia, especially my grandmother and great aunts. 1/?
I am absolutely a believer in giving the victim the first belief, but there were things in Lídia’s original interview that made my familial instincts tingle and painted huge cultural gray areas where problems could arise, so I was hesitant to condemn anyone.
With this clarification now, I can easily envision that Adam, being widely acknowledged as intense and hard on himself in scenes, was behaving with more aggression than Lídia approved of. She thought she made her annoyance super clear, but Adam very well could have missed it.
My grandma gets pissed at me all the time for stuff I didn’t even know she was mad about. It just happens. She takes things as personal offenses which are not at all intended that way.
It’s important to note: their feelings are not silly, they’re valid and should be heard.
It’s important to note: their feelings are not silly, they’re valid and should be heard.
Communication is hard under normal circumstances, even harder with general and cultural differences.
I’m not truing to absolve Adam. He can do better, and hopefully he will find some private way to apologize to Lídia. (Apologies go a long way with them!)
I’m not truing to absolve Adam. He can do better, and hopefully he will find some private way to apologize to Lídia. (Apologies go a long way with them!)
All I’m trying to say is that I can very easily see how this situation happened, why she perceived it the way she did, and why Adam isn’t the villain the world thought he was yesterday.
Still be careful not to stan celebrities too hard. They’re as human and messy as all of us.
Still be careful not to stan celebrities too hard. They’re as human and messy as all of us.
An anecdote, for kicks. One of my great aunts was harassing me about my natural hair being too big and curly (thanks humidity) and I eventually got fed up so I just stood up and left. She was so offended that she spread shit around the family for months about how rude I was.
I did just stand up and walk away, contrary to what I knew she perceived as polite, but I felt she was being rude too. I couldn’t change my family’s opinion until I apologized to the aunt, and then all was forgiven. Culture and perception are everything in situations like this.
