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Let me help y'all cis ppl who say y'all don't know what to do.
This is what you do.
You listening?
Good...
TELL THESE TRANSPHOBES TO FUCK OFF.
LOUDLY.
PUBLICLY.
The moment you hear/see/sense something transphobic about to happen you just shut it down.
Now I'll tell you HOW... https://twitter.com/EmilyGorcenski/status/1356856499780407297
This is what you do.
You listening?
Good...
TELL THESE TRANSPHOBES TO FUCK OFF.
LOUDLY.
PUBLICLY.
The moment you hear/see/sense something transphobic about to happen you just shut it down.
Now I'll tell you HOW... https://twitter.com/EmilyGorcenski/status/1356856499780407297
The first thing you gotta do is learn what is and ain't transphobic.
Y'all are cis, so you don't get to determine that. Ever.
If you try to do this anyways, then *that's* actually transphobic and you already fucking up.
Y'all are cis, so you don't get to determine that. Ever.
If you try to do this anyways, then *that's* actually transphobic and you already fucking up.
Don't *just* be loud on social media.
If you're with the homies and y'all decide to watch Ace Ventura Pet Detective, you should definitely point out how fucked up it is that there's a whole scene dedicated to how "gross" it is that someone kissed a trans girl.
If you're with the homies and y'all decide to watch Ace Ventura Pet Detective, you should definitely point out how fucked up it is that there's a whole scene dedicated to how "gross" it is that someone kissed a trans girl.
When you hear about transphobic laws, follow the lead of trans folks who are explaining why it's shit.
If we're saying to call folks, make them calls!
If we need you to show up for action, please show up, and if you can't, make sure that you support others that can financially.
If we're saying to call folks, make them calls!
If we need you to show up for action, please show up, and if you can't, make sure that you support others that can financially.
Uplift trans folks in your casual conversations!
If you hear about some trans folks doing some cool shit, hype it up!
We must shift the narrative around transness away from blatant lies and tragedy. This *really* means you need to immerse yourself in our work.
We out here!
If you hear about some trans folks doing some cool shit, hype it up!
We must shift the narrative around transness away from blatant lies and tragedy. This *really* means you need to immerse yourself in our work.
We out here!
Normalize (ugh) using gender neutral pronouns for EVERYBODY before they establish what they are.
This is super simple, and you probably do it already.
I literally grew up hearing my parents do it while driving.
Pronouns ain't become an issue until transphobes made it one.
This is super simple, and you probably do it already.
I literally grew up hearing my parents do it while driving.
Pronouns ain't become an issue until transphobes made it one.
On changing your language, address folks directly.
Jessica said...
Logan said...
OR
Do y'all want anything? (if you from the south lol)
What have they been up to? (singular and plural works!)
Doing this creates space for folks to do what works for them in a situation because...
Jessica said...
Logan said...
OR
Do y'all want anything? (if you from the south lol)
What have they been up to? (singular and plural works!)
Doing this creates space for folks to do what works for them in a situation because...
EVERYBODY AIN'T OUT, OR THEY CAN'T COME OUT FREELY BECAUSE THE WORLD IS VIOLENT AS SHIT TOWARDS TRANS FOLKS.
Combatting transphobia in our daily lives helps those in precarious situations better navigate society.
Cis ppl cultivated this violence, so it's on y'all to fix it.
Combatting transphobia in our daily lives helps those in precarious situations better navigate society.
Cis ppl cultivated this violence, so it's on y'all to fix it.
Ultimately, we have to make being transphobic completely unacceptable in our society, but until we reach that point we have to cultivate space for folks to exist as freely as they are able to, or are comfortable enough to.
This is going to vary depending on your circumstances.
This is going to vary depending on your circumstances.
For example, if you have a company that employs folks, ditch gendered dress codes.
If you're a teacher, allow your students to be addressed how they choose to. Period.
Don't make it a "trans thing." It's about expression.
Most won't give it a second thought, BUT IT HELPS.
If you're a teacher, allow your students to be addressed how they choose to. Period.
Don't make it a "trans thing." It's about expression.
Most won't give it a second thought, BUT IT HELPS.
If you teach youngins, just let them kids exist. You see folks playing with dolls, let them play with the damn dolls.
And real talk, you don't have to go into a whole speech when That One Child loudly proclaims "bUt tHaT'S FoR GiRlS."
Tell that child, *teacherly*, "that's cap."
And real talk, you don't have to go into a whole speech when That One Child loudly proclaims "bUt tHaT'S FoR GiRlS."
Tell that child, *teacherly*, "that's cap."
What I mean by that is you can just *teacherly* tell that child to mind the business that keeps them and reaffirm the other kids they can do whatever.
This... whew, this would've helped me as a kid A LOT.
And there's no mention of gender or sexuality.
It's REALLY this simple.
This... whew, this would've helped me as a kid A LOT.
And there's no mention of gender or sexuality.
It's REALLY this simple.
It's your job as a cisgender person to find out what you can do in your instances to cultivate a space that rejects transantagonism.
If you simply don't know, hire some (trans) folks to help you do better.
There's substantive things you can do that don't require pride stickers.
If you simply don't know, hire some (trans) folks to help you do better.
There's substantive things you can do that don't require pride stickers.
That being said, being very deliberate about your support is incredibly important in the face of amplified transphobia. Especially the transmisogyny that's been ramping up in the UK.
There needs to be more folks telling transphobes to fuck off LOUDLY and REPEATEDLY.
There needs to be more folks telling transphobes to fuck off LOUDLY and REPEATEDLY.
ALSO... as your support matures, you will *probably* start feeling pressure from other folks questioning things about you, and probably losing access to cis/het "stuff."
This shit is real for sure, but what you might face pales in comparison to the dangers we regularly face.
This shit is real for sure, but what you might face pales in comparison to the dangers we regularly face.
If the thought of being mistaken as trans, called slurs, or facing violence from transphobes b/c you refuse to allow transphobia in your space makes you feel uneasy, you need to sit with that.
Like, REALLY sit with that.
We trans folks can't opt out and we *need* COMRADES.
Like, REALLY sit with that.
We trans folks can't opt out and we *need* COMRADES.
And, because transphobia is inherently violent, you will likely encounter that violence.
You need to be "about that life" b/c when the shit hits the fan YOUR INTERVENTION might be the difference between life and death.
Yes, transphobia is that fucking serious.
You need to be "about that life" b/c when the shit hits the fan YOUR INTERVENTION might be the difference between life and death.
Yes, transphobia is that fucking serious.
There are folks actively advocating for PHYSICAL HARM to be done to anyone *suspected* of being trans.
And this violence is upheld even by the state in how they target trans folks, especially trans women.
Many states have "trans panic" laws that allow the murder of trans folks.
And this violence is upheld even by the state in how they target trans folks, especially trans women.
Many states have "trans panic" laws that allow the murder of trans folks.
And you complicate this with the nature of racism, fatphobia, ableism, colorism, xenophobia, and so much more.
It's really a lot.
And these transphobes are backed by incredibly deep pockets. They are backed by systems of yt supremacy and patriarchy, and imperialism.
It's really a lot.
And these transphobes are backed by incredibly deep pockets. They are backed by systems of yt supremacy and patriarchy, and imperialism.
Ultimately, we need cis ppl to recognize how damn serious it is that large, deeply conservative religious organizations are astroturfing movements to eradicate trans folks, with a specific focus on trans women, from existence.
These are fascist organizations, make no mistake.
These are fascist organizations, make no mistake.
So when some less than mediocre cisgender "comedian" makes a joke like "don't ask don't tuck" it's not trans folks overreacting b/c those "jokes" ultimately prime the public to accept greater yet less obviously insidious forms of transphobia designed to ween us out of existence.
When trans folks call out transphobic behavior from your "faves" listen to them and let THEM lead those conversations. What many try to gaslight us into believing is "just jokes" truly is a matter of literal life and death.
And if that makes you uncomfortable, sit with that.
And if that makes you uncomfortable, sit with that.
Honestly, the biggest and most important thing that cisgender ppl have to realize is that the society you've grown up in was transantagonistic, and that EVERYBODY has to spend time unlearning it just like we all must unlearn racism, fatphobia, ableism, and other forms of bigotry.
Unlearning bigotry is a life long process, and you will fuck up, but receive correction with humility and continue to mature in your journey towards becoming a trustworthy comrade.
One last thing, as we are working towards creating this new world together, we must acknowledge this change will not come overnight, so we have to do what we can to ensure that as many of us as possible are able to survive and thrive to see the better tomorrow we struggle for.
This means putting trans folks on to opportunities.
This means materially supporting trans folks creative work.
This means not letting our contributions go unnoticed.
And so much more.
This means materially supporting trans folks creative work.
This means not letting our contributions go unnoticed.
And so much more.
This thread is by no means exhaustive, but it's an ok start.
I'm just tired of cis ppl always saying "but what should I do."
Transphobia is prevalent enough in our everyday lives to where you could AT MINIMUM just challenge it when it comes up.
Like, it's really not that hard.
I'm just tired of cis ppl always saying "but what should I do."
Transphobia is prevalent enough in our everyday lives to where you could AT MINIMUM just challenge it when it comes up.
Like, it's really not that hard.
That's all I got for now.
I'm tired, lol.
This was a lot, but I hope... hopefully this wasn't a waste of my time and energy.
I almost didn't bother tbh, but a part of me *still* hopes to find comrades committed to making this world better for all of us.
Well see though, lol.
I'm tired, lol.
This was a lot, but I hope... hopefully this wasn't a waste of my time and energy.
I almost didn't bother tbh, but a part of me *still* hopes to find comrades committed to making this world better for all of us.
Well see though, lol.
