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PSA:
If you refuse to use they/them pronouns for someone when they explicitly ask you to & state their pronouns,
you are being transphobic and disrespectful to that person. Period.
I'm not "inconveniencing" you because you think they're hard to use.
You're disrespecting me.
If you refuse to use they/them pronouns for someone when they explicitly ask you to & state their pronouns,
you are being transphobic and disrespectful to that person. Period.
I'm not "inconveniencing" you because you think they're hard to use.
You're disrespecting me.
And no I'm not talking about people who mess up and later correct themselves, need practice, or don't realize the person uses they/them pronouns.
I'm talking about people who continually use the wrong pronouns when knowing what the correct pronoun is for that person.
I'm talking about people who continually use the wrong pronouns when knowing what the correct pronoun is for that person.
I think a lot of real allies get scared when these kind of tweets pop up. And I want to say that if you're trying to use they/them pronouns for someone who asks for them, then that's good!
It's absolutely fine to mess up and learn and correct yourself. In fact I encourage it!
It's absolutely fine to mess up and learn and correct yourself. In fact I encourage it!
It's not fine to consciously and knowingly misgender someone because it's just "too hard" to use they/them pronouns, when that person likely uses the words "they" and "them" all of the damn time.
It's surprisingly easy to tell the difference between the two of those.
It's surprisingly easy to tell the difference between the two of those.
I spent a few minutes tonight watching @thejeffreymarsh 's videos because it's exhausting to hear "she/her" when you specified "they/them." When they could've just used my name. When I didn't give any indication that she/her pronouns or "miss" were acceptable for me.
As an autistic person, I hate attracting attention to myself. I don't want to make things a "big deal." To be frank, it shouldn't be a big deal. I shouldn't have to say anything. The (they/them) next to my name should be enough. But it never is.
Why is that never enough?
Why is that never enough?
