When male celebrities are revealed as predators towards women and the first response from dudes is to make jokes about how said guy "looks like a rapist" or "was always creepy" it just...shows how disconnected so many men are from this kind of violence.

Because the whole "oh of course this guy is bad" rhetoric erases the fact that people routinely gaslight women, don't believe us, and make us feel "dramatic" when we speak out about our experiences. So to turn around and be like "LOL of course that guy is rapey" is fuckin shitty

Unless you're one of the few men willing to get lampooned by your peers for believing women when it's still "hearsay," when people will claim you're "white-knighting" or when the woman is deemed "unlikeable" - then it's very hard to hear you act as if you "saw it coming"

This "I totally could see this coming" attitude just places blame and shame on women for not coming forward sooner, despite the fact that in many cases women HAVE come forward sooner and been blacklisted or routinely silenced/erased.

Regardless of how cartoonishly weird a man is, he's not a cartoon to the people he's victimized. And it just increases feelings of isolation and shame to act like you can't conceive of how that predator could successfully manipulate and abuse ppl, especially when they're famous

Anyways, it's very fun to be a triggered joykill! But once every 15 rape/MeToo cases I have to express myself once more.

Also - the point isn't to say we can't/shouldn't make fun of rapists, it's just a tricky subject and the reflexive way a lot of dudes (I'm thinking male comics especially) use it as a joke format shows they...really...don't get it and aren't listening.