So hey, not-LGBTQ+ friends, c'mere a sec, there's some confusion going around. Have a seat.

"cis" is short for "cisgender" and means you identify with the sex you were assigned at birth. You are not trans(gender). It has nothing to do with who you sleep with. 1/?

"het" is short when paired with "cis" for "heterosexual". You are only attracted to the opposite gender. You are straight, not gay.

People a cis het man might be attracted to include cis AND TRANS women. People a cis het woman might be attracted to include cis AND TRANS men.

Being attracted to trans people does not make you queer, or gay, or anything but straight - that is, unless you don't ACTUALLY believe that trans men are men and trans women are women.

Likewise a cis lesbian dating a trans woman is not suddenly a straight woman. A gay man dating a trans man has not switched teams.

Cis people do not exclusively date and fall in love with other cis people.

...I have not touched on we unknowable gender goblins and other nonbinary people here because quite frankly we're just in it to fuck up your systems. I'm trying to keep this simple for my cis het friends.

To imply that cis people do or should exclusively date other cis people is transphobic as fuck. Don't do that. Fix your hearts.

So to recap: cis just describes your gender identity and doesn't say anything about who you partner with.

Het describes who you partner with but doesn't say anything about their gender identity or for that matter their sexuality (they could be bi!)

Unknowable gender goblins: here to defy easy classification in threads like this and also possibly cause you to have some uncomfortable moments questioning your sexuality.