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i’m probably gonna get judged for this but idc 
so you know how there are love languages? i believe... there are conflict management languages or “fight” languages. like there are people who respond better to you confronting them with kindness and patience. on the other hand...
so you know how there are love languages? i believe... there are conflict management languages or “fight” languages. like there are people who respond better to you confronting them with kindness and patience. on the other hand...
there are people (me) who actually respond better to aggression & brutal honesty. yeah i blame childhood but like it is what it is! it’s not that the patience and softness won’t work on me but i do change my behavior quicker when i see a frustration from a person.
some people are like GIVE IT TO ME STRAIGHT idc if you hurt my feelings fucking TELL ME. others reject that entirely which is like yay good for you that’s probably healthiest but yeah i’m like this. i don’t mind it though.
i’ve noticed certain people in my life continue to take advantage of me when i’m kind & patient about what behavior i would like to change. when i start cursing & being a menace thats when they all of the sudden, see from my perspective.
it’s fucking wild & i know a lot of people wanna call it trauma responses and omg heal but truthfully yeah nature vs nurture that’s why we’re all different and if we just require brutal honesty i don’t see why that’s so bad lol. not everyone wants marshmallows and gumdrops.
it reminds me of that day i tweeted something like get off your ass and do something and all the white people were crying in my mentions and calling me an abusive pseudo spiritualist monster but black people & people of color were like ugh i needed this thanks queen. 
like some people need to be coddled & hate any form of tough love even if it’s not that harsh and others (me) prefer tough love bc it’s what i’m used to and i don’t feel inclined to learn a diff conflict management language. like i’m fine with this.
