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I will say it here because it's still hard for many and it shouldn't be. there's a LOT of shawols still badly struggling with the comeback and not feeling fully welcome to participate as they (we) grieve.
I feel like there's a lot of conversation about how it's ok to feel happy about a cb but still not enough about feeling ambivalent or not fully happy about a cb. It's not a reflection of love or support but more a reflection of enduring grief. Don't shut this down.
sharing it and being honest about it will normalize the conversation and make people feel more welcome. you say "all feelings are valid! blingers are welcome! then doing that means making space for some real uncomfortable feelings" (TW next)
TW 12/18 SHINee is active as a group with a member that was lost to death and that makes things uniquely hard (there are other fandoms that understand this, like Lavelys) but trying to pretend like things are the same isn't helping and it usually the source of infighting.
so the more we can publicly vocalize that it's hard and awkward, the more we can move towards healing, imo
but trying to shout down any discourse about how things are the same or pretending like things are the same shuts out a lot of shawols, old and new, from sorting out our feelings and healing
so let's be different than 2018! we are already doing so much better! But it's still not easy so let's support each other in words and actions, shawols!
I am already so encouraged by how we are supporting each other now. SHINee World is one of my fandom homes. I'm always here for y'all in whatever way I can.
