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Lessons I am learning that has made navigating my 20s a little easier:
The illusion that you should have life figured out by 25 and in motion by 30, is just that- an illusion. All the pressure you put on yourself to have it all figured out is unnecessary. Be sure to define success on your own terms; not based on someone else’s timeline.
Purpose is simple- become the most authentic and fulfilled version of yourself. It’s not all about the work you do- it’s who you become and how you live. Stop wrapping your identity around finding your purpose, it’s not lost. You evolve into it.
You are going to change your mind about what you want to do about your life often. That’s okay. When you don’t know what you want to do, try everything you’d like to do and somewhere you’ll find out what you’re willing to devote more time to mastering.
I promise you, the people you try to impress by wasting your money- do not care. Don’t expend yourself trying to impress others.
Just because you are afraid, doesn’t mean that you are incapable or unqualified. Feel the fear, and move anyway. Give yourself permission to be courageous.
Education and experience are currencies you ought to value. Some exchanges are more valuable than money- learn to decipher which opportunities teach you how to fish, and not just feed you one.
As you grow, you will lose friends. That is okay. You are allowed to outgrow people, and they too are allowed to outgrow you.
Don’t put so much pressure or emphasis on romantic relationships. Focus on cultivating community with people who see you and understand you. And beyond that, focus on taking up your own space.
Dating, if you’re serious about it, is about collecting data. Make sure you know what you need to know about a person to decide if they’re worth your time. Some men you date for fun, others you date for a future. Know the difference.
The best thing you could do for yourself in your early 20’s is cultivate clarity and practice discipline. Decide the kind of person you’d like to be, then commit to the journey of becoming her.
Social media is just another tool. If you’re not paying for it, you’re the product. So, if it’s free, be mindful of the cost (time)
Comparison makes no sense. Who else in this world started with the exact story, journey and personality as you? No one. Before you compare, consider context- you’re the only one capable of walking your path.
Failure is inevitable. Become friends with it. It has much to teach you about success.
Edit your life and circle often. You have to ruthlessly go through your life with a fine tooth comb. If people no longer fit, make adjustments. It's not always a matter of cutting them off, just demote and promote accordingly.
Do the hard thing; it’ll help you realise your potential or adjust your ego.
If you’re uncertain about your career path, focus on stacking skills. Most people who are fulfilled in their work lives didn’t follow a career path, they created one. Stack skills, make them transferable and align them with your interests and values.
In your 20s, your biggest advantage is time. You have time. Use that resource wisely.
Practice makes progress. You have to be willing to shoot more shots. To show up. To do the work.
People will take offence to your growth when you outgrow certain things. That ain’t your problem. Don’t hold yourself back trying to hold other people up.
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