Whenever people say "our mums did that so should you" or "it's the norm" I often think how can you grow up seeing your own womenfolk suffer so much and instead of asking "why was nobody helping her" want to repeat that cycle

Seeing your mums be forced into a life of servitude, not allowed to complete studies/work, be married off young due to a necessity, serve in laws who in many communties act like the women in question is a commodity, raise children by themself, do schools run, look after husband

When he comes home from work, prepare his meal. Then when everybody is ready to sleep, the women cant because either the baby wakes up for feed/young children need xyz. Our womenfolk put in a night shift whilst working a day shift as well.

And ~nobody~ is helping them. They cant even complain or else theyll be told they disobedient wife/make up hell/other women do above.

That's why so many of them bite their lip and get on with it silently.

Lets not even mention dawots, family gatherings/functions, Ramadan, Eids. They do all of the preparations as well whilst balancing children, in laws, husband.

And after all of this they are left with no pension, no assets, no savings. They are at the mercy of others. Hence why I think loads of communties treat women like this because they know at the end women who object where are they really going to go?

Become divorced, become a single mum, live in a shelter or be on a long waiting list for a council house.

The options presented to many women are often limited so before you romanticize their struggle understand this, especially immigrant communities.