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Can we talk coming out etiquette for a second? I'm hopeful that more closeted trans ppl will come out as the world continues to change, so let's get this right.
The best response is absolutely "Congratulations!" This is JOYOUS. Thank them for trusting you even.
The best response is absolutely "Congratulations!" This is JOYOUS. Thank them for trusting you even.
Unless they ask, no trans person needs to know whether you are surprised or if you could have guessed. There's a lot going on here with dysphoria and passing/safety and even gender stereotypes, but let's sum this up as a bit rude.
Dont assume that just because someone is out to you, theyre out to everyone. Obviously if it's on their SM and in magazines, you can! But if a friend comes out to you, ask if it's okay to use their correct names/pronouns at all times. You might also take their chance.
"Preferred" pronouns are not a thing. These are our personal pronouns same as the ones you were given. "What pronouns do you want me to use?" is lovely.
"Identify as" is the same thing. We don't "identify as" we ARE. Even if you know zero trans ppl, work on this language please.
"Identify as" is the same thing. We don't "identify as" we ARE. Even if you know zero trans ppl, work on this language please.
(You don't know zero trans people, I guarantee this, they just aren't out yet.)
Do not ever ask about physical changes, surgeries, etc unless they invite the conversation. From "Are you gonna cut your hair?" to "oh let me teach you makeup now" to "are you gonna get a dick?" these are wildly inappropriate before you're asked. Don't assume our transition.
The very best thing you can do is share their joy, follow their lead, and offer to do whatever you can to make them as happy & safe as they deserve to be.
Thanks for making yourself someone trans people can trust and doing your best.
#TransRightsAreHumanRights
Thanks for making yourself someone trans people can trust and doing your best.
#TransRightsAreHumanRights