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If u care for someone, you shouldn't be afraid to tell them when they're wrong or have caused harm. I tend to trust ppl who are honest with me when I've hurt them, more than those who hide it and resent me for something I didn't know of. Honesty should not break a relationship.
It's a fact that everyone is capable of causing harm unintentionally. Getting defensive about the harm you've caused is dismissive to the feelings of those who have been hurt. An apology is not a concession, it's just the right thing to do. It hurts nobody to say sorry + change-
your behavior in the future. That means even if the person you hurt can't forgive you, if you truly want to be good to others you'll work on it sincerely. I'm no stranger to the shame spiral that can occur (especially with neurodivergent ppl) after being told you've messed up
but even then, especially then, it's important to step back and listen. You don't need to understand why someone was hurt to appolgize. The shame you may feel is not equal to the pain you've caused, even if it was out of naivety.
Gonna mute this since I'm not used to this many notifs, but I'm glad my early morning thoughts resonated with people haha 
