Read on Twitter
We also need to understand that in those vulnerable moments, one's body freezes, there's so much gaslighting that goes on in from perpetrator(s) to families in saving its pride. Fight & flight modes works only in places there's consciousness and awareness https://twitter.com/shobnasi/status/1355476490888990721
Many (including me) have lost count and would never be at ease to do it, for many, CSA comes into conscious display in late adolescence, early-late adulthood, when all fight-flight tactics are futile. It has a tremendous effect on their attachment patterns
In newer/old relationships, intimacy, sexuality, sexual intimacy, and interpersonal communication. Fight-flight mode is often taken as a defence to deal with the evoking anxiety that comes out of the awareness that their bodies were violated w/o consent
In later life. The violations cannot be prevented later, but perhaps a good way to sensitize kids in early developmental age is to make them aware which touch is good/not good, which touch makes them comfortable, which makes them feel violated.
Touch can be felt and reacted since a very easily developmental stages, in fact since infancy only. Sensitisation can be started since early develop. age (1-2 years) and instead of just teaching fight response, a better way is to make kids aware of the evil
The evil that CSA is, in easy and non triggering language. I developed a CSA kit in one of my early internships while working with kids and one interesting exercise we developed (kids &I) was to collectively sit and discuss what does a touch evoke, good/bad/
3 Fs responses might put the kid in danger, however it must be teached along, but not just in isolation. Oftentimes we see there's no or least reporting of CSA cases, but it stays w kids forever, and is implicated in later lives & relationships so violently
Conversation is important, first and foremost. Sensitising them abt its existence works in most cases, acceptance of body despite violations, ruling out stigmatized views around bodies, abuse from daily conversations is important, it can't be done overnight.
Filling gaps in communication is also one of the most important, in familiar and teaching dynamics. Classroom spaces needs to be gender fluid, gender sensitised, and safe, where communication can be started and not laughed or gaged at.
A mere touch, if evokes any emotion other than comforting, it needs to be communicated, safe spaces can be claimed if this is practiced religiously. Even a comfortable feeling where they felt loved, held, close, needs to be communicated w their comfort.
Focus needs to be given on a child's feelings, it could be sensed if we keep a close look to their daily activities (there's a difference in their bodily functions, behaviour, attitude in most cases) even in instances of unawareness of the existence of abuse
Childcare is difficult, with a child, adult also re-live their childhood, it's important to practice daily care (self too), and notice hindrances which impinges it, a collective sensitisation is what is needed, with homely sensitisation. That's it for now
Can talk about parents accountability later, thanks.
