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People sometimes ask me, "Jesse, how'd you launch both career and family at a time when so many millennials are struggling?" Easy! All it takes is a little elbow grease and some careful planning. I'll share my secret with you.
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First, you'll want to grow up in at least a middle-class household. I say select two solid parents and make sure you establish a strong trust bond with your primary caregiver in your first year.
If you plan this first step poorly, things get a lot tougher, so don't drop the ball at this stage! Also, a safe neighborhood with lots of role models, happy marriages, and learning resources should be a given.
Second, you'll want to have your parents pay your way through undergrad. When you get to college, go ahead and meet your soul mate within the first two weeks. That's what I did. Don't worry; it will happen if you want it badly enough.
Third, bounce around a few odd jobs while you figure out what to do with your life. If things get tight just wait for your parents to give you many thousands of dollars.
And don't worry, if you planned well from the beginning you're white and people will continue to take you seriously regardless.
Fourth, leverage the qualifications and skin color you've worked so hard to earn! Use them to get an ideal job that allows you and your spouse to work at home, raise a family, and get an MA all at the same time.
Fifth, when you're ready to start the phd, move to a major city and get a perfectly situated house close to your campus. Here again, if you've planned ahead your skin color and father's money will come in very useful.
Along the way, be sure to keep yourself in that zone where you qualify for copious amounts of government aid and healthcare.
There's a lot more to it but these are the basics. If you don't think you can do it you might want to look at waste in your budget. You might be spending too much on avocados.
Seriously, privilege is real. It is concrete, and it starts from day 1.
So often the similarly situated families of color in our circles not only had to overcome so much more to get where they are, now they *support* their extended family instead of receiving generational wealth.
