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A year ago, my wife bought us a couple's workbook. A family member said she had been using with her husband. My friend sent me a web seminar for couples.
My response each time, was an eye roll, eye roll, & another deeper, extended eye roll.
Whose got time for all that?
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My response each time, was an eye roll, eye roll, & another deeper, extended eye roll.
Whose got time for all that?
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I have always struggled to see relationships as work. You get along, fight, makeup and continue to learn to deal with each other.
It's like friendships, family, work and even neighbours. We don't go school to learn how to manage these things — you live and adapt — nah?
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It's like friendships, family, work and even neighbours. We don't go school to learn how to manage these things — you live and adapt — nah?
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In the past year, I had time to change my psychology. For the first time, everything that mattered was 20/20 crystal clear. Do you ever assess at your marriage?
It is a tangible extension of something we share with a loved one, but we don't oversee it, we live in it
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It is a tangible extension of something we share with a loved one, but we don't oversee it, we live in it
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A marriage can become like a home, a safe place.
So too often we get complacent. We come back to it, hang up our clothes and sleep in it, then don’t check the foundations, unless there is a leak in the plumbing or the lights go out.
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So too often we get complacent. We come back to it, hang up our clothes and sleep in it, then don’t check the foundations, unless there is a leak in the plumbing or the lights go out.
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Marriage is a beating pulse that has pumped life into us for so long and — unless we concentrate hard — we have become deaf to the sound of its rhythm.
Relationships do need work; the tyres need to be changed, and the oil checked on a regular.
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Relationships do need work; the tyres need to be changed, and the oil checked on a regular.
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I have been guilty of letting things just flow in my relationship - if it's not broken, no need to fix it.
The sad thing about people is that when you break them, there is no easy assembly manual on putting them back together.
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The sad thing about people is that when you break them, there is no easy assembly manual on putting them back together.
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Today, I picked up my couples workbook and filled in the remaining pages. I was ashamed to see empty spaces waiting for my acknowledgement, next to my wife's handwriting. It took me 5 minutes, maybe even less.
It wasn't rocket science, trigonometry or the theory of relativity.
It wasn't rocket science, trigonometry or the theory of relativity.
It doesn't take a staff that can split seas or Birkin bags — can't lie, the bags do help — but some of the critical tools to keep a marriage going strong are things we instinctively neglect; time and a little effort.
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To a marriage, simple one-word answers can be more important than all the science in the world.
I know I rattle on about the difficulties of marriage and partnership, but sometimes it can be surprisingly more low maintenance. Simple still works.
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I know I rattle on about the difficulties of marriage and partnership, but sometimes it can be surprisingly more low maintenance. Simple still works.
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I can not claim that coming home early from work or taking morning walks together will save your marriage.
They are only subtle reminders to protect your love so that even when the rains flood the world around you, you know your ark is always secured.
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They are only subtle reminders to protect your love so that even when the rains flood the world around you, you know your ark is always secured.
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