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tw // abuse , suicide , manipulation , gaslighting
we had no intention of making a public thread about our experiences with lania, but after having multiple lies being spread about us we’ve all agreed that it’s necessary to be able to tell the truth along with actual proof.
we had no intention of making a public thread about our experiences with lania, but after having multiple lies being spread about us we’ve all agreed that it’s necessary to be able to tell the truth along with actual proof.
just to preface lania used to go by blue but they’ve changed their dn now. some of the ss are older so that’s why the names might change.
as a lot of people may know, nik, lana, madi, nat, lynn, janis and i were all in a gc with lania ( @colorsonfilm). throughout being in the gc with them, they’d constantly make every situation about themselves/their mental health/a halsey follow.
when halsey responded to them about the zines, they were clearly upset. we spent time trying to comfort them in the gc and they started turning it on us because halsey followed the rest of us (which is out of our control)
then afterwards, they very clearly subtweeted us. they never told us about people attacking them, but we were still there for them in whatever way we could be. we are not in control of other people’s actions.
after all of this happened, some of the people left the gc because they felt uncomfortable. lania accused us of not being there for them when we always tried our best. they had a very specific idea of what “being there for someone” looked like.
for example, throughout our friendship and lynn’s relationship with them, they tried to get us to cut off our friends because they didn’t like them. the first ss is my private convo with them, second is lynn’s, last two are them being upset with us for being friends w others.
emmy, one of the people they tried to get us to cut off, also made a thread about their own experiences with them that you can read here. https://twitter.com/halsey3am/status/1354467491943223296
they’d also constantly make everything about a halsey follow. 1. when i tweeted about my gf at the time, they’d make it about them. 2. when madi got a notice, it’d be about them. there are countless more texts and ss we could use but you get the idea.
they would (and probably still) constantly tweet triggering things about suicide with 0 warning. these are from after we stopped talking to them, but there were a lot from when we were still friends with them.
after they were kicked from the gc, they approached both nik and lynn through texts. first one is nik’s convo w them and last two are lynn’s. these messages were extremely manipulative and don’t even touch the surface of lynn’s entire relationship with them.
these are just a couple ss from lynn, but lania would constantly ask them to draw them, would use them for sizzy/halsey interactions, and tried to cut them off from their friends. they’d be mad if they didn’t get an appropriate amount of attention. just very toxic overall.
also this is lynn’s message about their relationship.
they also had an ex who they labelled as extremely abusive, manipulative, and toxic. lania would CONSTANTLY talk about them in our group chat, and completely made them out to be a horrible person. after lania left the gc, lynn and their ex spoke.
lania’s ex and lynn’s stories ab their relationships were very similar. lania was extremely controlling, manipulative, and toxic to both of them. lania approached their ex after they left the gc and attempted to manipulate them more.
i’m not adding ss of lania’s convos with their ex for the sake of privacy, but the experiences they had with them were horrible. lania would go out of their way to villainize them. they attempted to ostracize their ex and blatantly lied about them.
lania also tried to get their ex to cut people off to the point where they were scared to do things without permission.
this is not a one time thing. this cycle continued for years. both of lania’s ex partners have expressed the same feelings about their relationships, and the way they treated us was horrible. lania has a history of manipulation, gaslighting, and extremely toxic behavior.
they have literally admitted to having control problems yet continued to seek a relationship and continued to shift the blame on us for not wanting to entertain it any longer. lania has been going around to multiple people claiming that we bullied/ganged up/were toxic to them.
we tried so hard to help them and encourage them to get help, but we all also have our own mental health issues to consider. it's hard to help someone when you're struggling immensely too. + emmy worded this really well so i’m gonna link it here https://twitter.com/halsey3am/status/1354476644996677632
i want to make it very clear that if multiple people have the same story about one person, the multiple people with similar stories are most likely NOT the ones lying. dealing w the issues lania caused took a detrimental toll on all of us individually.
